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was it wrong of me to do what I did?
BillieTheBot
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I know Ive posted something like this before but its really bothering me now and I can't sleep because im so upset.
(Kermit and Blah Dont need to reply to this because they'll only bite off my head)
I liked this girl for a good while but I couldn't speak to her cause I heard she said something mean about me and also I was shy around her.
I made sure she knew I was there, said hi when I could, made lots of eye contact. made small talk sometimes
I found out she was Bi from a good mate and just said I wouldnt bother with her and to just leave her alone.
I just wrote her a short letter saying what I wanted to say.
She got a mate to deal with me and told a load of people about it and as a result I got shunned for it.
I wrote the note cause she was leaving so I thought nothing bad would happen and just tell her how I felt then I would never bother her again.
Don't take the mick please but If you must... dont be cruel..
(Kermit and Blah Dont need to reply to this because they'll only bite off my head)
I liked this girl for a good while but I couldn't speak to her cause I heard she said something mean about me and also I was shy around her.
I made sure she knew I was there, said hi when I could, made lots of eye contact. made small talk sometimes
I found out she was Bi from a good mate and just said I wouldnt bother with her and to just leave her alone.
I just wrote her a short letter saying what I wanted to say.
She got a mate to deal with me and told a load of people about it and as a result I got shunned for it.
I wrote the note cause she was leaving so I thought nothing bad would happen and just tell her how I felt then I would never bother her again.
Don't take the mick please but If you must... dont be cruel..
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I don't understand, you found out she was bi and that put you off? I don't see why it should but whatever.
Is there a question or were you just wanting to get things off your chest?
People wont be cruel but you have to accept that some of the opinions you get might not be what you want to hear right now.
a bit of both actually
I just don't want to be told "shut up you soppy prat" or somthing like that
If you wanna know a bit more about the story, ill repost in more detail.
So your question is 'were you wrong to write her the letter?'
The trouble is...its done now you can't take it back, you have found out she isnt interested. IMO you just need to forget it and move on, its easier said than done but thats my advice.
What do you mean "she got a mate to deal with you" she sounds quite childish, is that really someone you want to be with? Maybe looking back you can see that she isnt the perfect girl you pictured her to be.
Maybe because you now know she's not interested and now that's she's left (or in the process of leaving), this'd be the time to "get over it"? Not meant harshly, but that looks like the most viable prospect from where i'm sitting.
I just feel like a prat for fancying her, because of what she did I actually regret fancying her.
I have moved on though but still think about her from time to time
you know what they say "what goes around, comes around"
I just hope im there there to see it!
Well there you go then, you're bound to think about her from time to time, there's nothing wrong with that.
Don't waste your time waiting for bad things to happen to her though, its a waste of your own energy. Just get on with enjoying yourself and forget about her.
Turlough: Not that I have issues with women, just don't know how to deal with em....
That reminds me, I think I need a bit of a cull of my friends. :chin:
This is the first girl I liked BTW so I guess this fuck up can be allowed right?
I know writing letters is really old school but I can put this whole thing under 'it seemed like a good idea at the time'
tbh, I didn't like it when you called me sensitive, im not completly sensitive. Its just that when im with a girl I like, I go all.....mushy.
I guess I just put my heart on my sleeve but it was at the wrong place at the wrong time.
Matt: You say the girls not off limits, what if she had a girlfriend?
well at least this whole things toughened me up a bit...
and at least I told her eh? better than what most guys would do.