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Her parents hate me...
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...Because i am 22 and she is just turning 18, her parents are refusing to let her see me or rather see me for more then afew hours at a time. It totally sucks and i hate it, but they do not think a nearly 18 year old should have anything to do with a 22 year old, especially not a relationship.
She is telling me it will be ok eventually and eventually they will let us have a proper relationship and for now, she loves me and trusts me. I do love her, we have known each other for years and years, we were friends long before we ever had our first date, and im happy to wait for her.
But she is 17 and i dont know if it is even fair to expect her to put up with the situation as it is, when she could be out having fun and having a relationship with some one her parents would let her see.
She is telling me it will be ok eventually and eventually they will let us have a proper relationship and for now, she loves me and trusts me. I do love her, we have known each other for years and years, we were friends long before we ever had our first date, and im happy to wait for her.
But she is 17 and i dont know if it is even fair to expect her to put up with the situation as it is, when she could be out having fun and having a relationship with some one her parents would let her see.
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Treat her well, stick around, dont piss them off, and prove your making her happy and they will slowly learn to accept you.
But trust takes time to build, especially with protective parents
Basically when i spoke to her last night about it she said her parents would be happy to let her see or and stay with a guy who was 22 provided they knew him and she had known him ages. Clearly they dont know we have been friends for years. But they said basically she doesnt know me at all, so it would be ok to stay with a guy she just met last week if all her friends knew him but not me who only she knows...even though i know her friends too. Basically...anytime she explains the situation they find a new excuse...apart from been a good bf to her now when i can see her and waiting for them to come around, there is nothing else i can do.
when i had just turned 18 i started going out with a 26year old. my mum was wary too at first but she met him and had a chat and saw that he was a nice guy.
But it is serious, it was suppose to be casual for us both, but that gradually became serious the longer we were together.
As general advice, you can't make someone like you, and basically you will earn their trust if you stick around and don't act like a tard.
I dunno....I wasn't too keen on my boyfriend meeting my parents for ages. It was because I KNEW they wouldn't like him, I knew they'd be judgemental and I was totally right. I think when you've got an idea that they're not gonna be overjoyed, then you do hold back on the meeting the parents thing.
During a phone call to arrange a day to go to see her and i hoped meet her parents, because i needed to know what day to get a train ticket for, She started this huge argument while she was drunk, confessed to getting off with a load of guys during a game of spin the bottle and chatting up some other guy she wants to go out with instead and then decided after crying at me and saying she loved me...that, this morning it was all over for good! She has been all happy and smiles about it like its no big deal, despite all the tears and arguing and going on about love just last night.
I am seriously upset and pissed off that she can one minute be miserable and on about how hard it is and how much she is in love then go and get off with a load of guys, cry about it when we have an argument about it, then decide we shall never make any effort to see each other again and probably will only ever keep intouch on the msn or texts (As If)! And she is acting sooo happy now about everything.
im guessing all this because it sounds like something i did not that long ago..
hope you're ok x
I just wish she had told me what she actually wanted.
Whether or not i stay friends with her or not, i don't know, we will probably never see each other again unless by some fluke she decides Leeds is the university for her and moves here, other then that, i doubt me and her will have much to do with each other now.