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im moving into a house with my mates tomorrow. and one of them, not meaning this in a horrible way, but she smells alot. we have avoided going to her flat for the whole of this year because we cant stand the smell. she's the most loveliest person you could ever meet and she is one of my best friends. but me and another friend have heard people talking about her when weve been out, saying things such as " is that the fat, smelly one who dances alot". we dont want people sayin these things about her, coz she's such a nice person and she never does anything wrong to anyone.
so we've decided were gonna talk to her tonight. were gonna tell her that she smells and that people are noticing and we want to help her sort it out.
has anyone else ever been in my position? if so, how did you tackle the problem and what did you say?
would really appreciate any replies
thanx
xx
so we've decided were gonna talk to her tonight. were gonna tell her that she smells and that people are noticing and we want to help her sort it out.
has anyone else ever been in my position? if so, how did you tackle the problem and what did you say?
would really appreciate any replies
thanx
xx
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Good luck and she will appreciate this in the future, she may be embaressed at the start but she'll get over it.
If you all get together have have words with her it will probably end badly I think. If one of you does it, atleast she wont think she's being ganged up on and can talk to the others about how she feels.
Again this is one of those situations that could end badly. Be friendly with her, teach her...slowly. About how to clean clothes, cook and wash. Don't throw it all at her at once.
ETA : and we're the ones closest to her, thats why were talking to her
I guess it's just a foisty smell rather than actual body odour from what you've said? Maybe you could suggest trips to the laundrette together, or if you have your own clothes washing facilities then you could offer to pool some laundry - I'm not sure, it's a difficult one because it's so personal and there are so many potential reasons. Good luck with it; just tread softly and you should be fine. She will thank you in the end, I'm sure of it
xx
good luck and all, you're doing the right thing in the long run.
she said she's pleased it came from us and not anyone else. i feel really bad but i no it was the right thing. we've offered to help her wash her clothes and stuff. im pretty sure its the washing. we asked her about shower gel and stuff, but she was hesitant about wash powder. and she hand washes as well, but im we'll sort it between the three of us.
thanx for your help, really appreciate it
xx
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Which isn't an excuse really; even though someone is allergic to soap (and before anyone asks, when I was younger I actually had an allergy to soap) there are certain soaps they;re able to use without any problems.