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Rebound
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Ok, so we know that going out with someone on the rebound is bad. But whats the status of casual fun? Or should I still give myself time to 'deal' with issues. I spoke to the ex today and told her I can't see / speak to her again, and want to forget about her really. It wasn't working trying to be friends. Anyway, last night I did go over a friends house and stayed with her till 2am. In the last hour or so I developed an urge to kiss her. Wasn't sure if it would be prudent though.
So seeing yet another female friend this afternoon. Should the same temptation arise should I go for it or should I hold back?
Thanks
Rich
So seeing yet another female friend this afternoon. Should the same temptation arise should I go for it or should I hold back?
Thanks
Rich
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rebound sex is something you're most likely to regret tho'
:chin:
Is it because you miss what you have with your ex and think it might make you feel better?
Is it because you want closeness and it doesnt matter who from?
Or is it because you genuinly fancy the girl and would have made a move on her if you were'nt fresh out of a relationship?
If its the latter, then go for it. But if its because of reasons similar to the first two then refrain. You'll feel stupid after it happens, could get rejected and end up feeling even worse, and could end up causing hassle with these female friends of yours.
I do want closeness a lot though. And I'm slightly indiscriminant. But then again, if I had my pick, it would be the same girl. That's why it was her house I went round last night and stayed till the early hours talking. It helps a lot having someone there so I dont feel completely and utterly alone really. And the girl I'm seeing later, well if anything happened that would be purely gratuitous fun lol.
Casual fun with friends that you want to be friend with afterwards - :no:
Just chill for a bit I think till I get settled down maybe.
Just whatever you do don't go back to the ex for comfort.
Deleted the exes contact details so I cant get in touch with her.
What i don't understand is some people have replied saying stay with the ex as friends for comfort, and some are saying the complete opposite..
However, i met up with my ex tonight, made me feel so much better speaking to her as i havent spoke to her for 48 hours since she finished with me, but in a way it makes her wanna get back with me cus shes seen me tonight. Ive promised myself i wont get back with her, which i wont, but now that we've met up as friends for a friendly chat she seems to think different!
What do i do?
>Keep meeting up with her as friends for comfort
>Not have anything to do with her and feel like crap and sick like i have been feeling like lately?
But for normal stuff like watching telly I haven't had much of an issue. It's actually helped knowing she hasn't scarpered to the other end of the world. And because I'm not feeling so miserable, I can get on with my own life better. Note me going to housesit with an italian girl at my bros place next week .