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Best friend wants to be boyfriend???
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I was recently chatting to my friend and he was saying that he loved me and wanted me and stuff. He was still joking around most of the time but sometimes he'd just come out with something that seemed like he meant it seriously.
We've only met once (although we live pretty close we never see each other) but that one time was a New Year's party and we got together - nothing serious but neither of us were drunk and I fancied him after but he liked someone else. We still spoke loads after on the net and he's become my best friend - we tell each other practically everything.
Thing is I don't fancy him any more and I don't understand why he's being like this - he's always telling me about the girls he likes. It does seem like he's being serious about it at times but I don't understand at all - I KNOW he doesn't fancy me. It's not just messing about - I know him well enough by now to realise that. Or do I? Maybe he is just messing around.
But all of a sudden he's promising to meet up sometime and go out loads. Yet he knows I like someone else. One thing hit me - he's remembered everything I said to him that night - so embarrassing when he started quoting stuff I'd forgotten I'd said!
I DON'T KNOW! I'M CONFUSED! WAAAAAAAAH!
We've only met once (although we live pretty close we never see each other) but that one time was a New Year's party and we got together - nothing serious but neither of us were drunk and I fancied him after but he liked someone else. We still spoke loads after on the net and he's become my best friend - we tell each other practically everything.
Thing is I don't fancy him any more and I don't understand why he's being like this - he's always telling me about the girls he likes. It does seem like he's being serious about it at times but I don't understand at all - I KNOW he doesn't fancy me. It's not just messing about - I know him well enough by now to realise that. Or do I? Maybe he is just messing around.
But all of a sudden he's promising to meet up sometime and go out loads. Yet he knows I like someone else. One thing hit me - he's remembered everything I said to him that night - so embarrassing when he started quoting stuff I'd forgotten I'd said!
I DON'T KNOW! I'M CONFUSED! WAAAAAAAAH!
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If he does take you out, that's fine, but if he tries anything you just have to tell him straight that you're not interested in that way.
Or you could arrange that when you go out with him, you have other friends with you?
chickadee, you don't need to look further than this statement. if you know you don't fancy him anymore, then make sure you are clear with him about that.
but obviously, you feel something for him or else you wouldn't have posted this. so if you can admit that you do fancy him on some level, then you have to give it a chance. he sounds like he really does like you. the only way to find that out of course is to go out with him. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
what i'm saying here is that we can present you with opinions on which way to go, but the only way to beat your confusion is for you to figure out what you really want from this guy and then act accordingly. don't let us talk you into anything. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Thanks for your help Calvin <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> Sure I feel something for him, but not in that way - he's like a brother. The reason I posted this was beacuse I wasn't sure if it was obvious he was messing about or was really trying to tell me something and whether I was reading too much into the whole thing <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
i think you just answered ur own post. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> either way, make sure he knows u see him as more of a brother than a boyfriend, once he knows that, i think this happens much less.
i will say this though, when guys "mess" like that, they're usually fishing for a sign from you that you're interested too. it's a safe way to see if there's a spark without having to lay it on the line.
i think ur reading was exactly right. he wants to see if he can change the nature of your relationship, and if you give him a negative reaction, he can say he was just messing and still be friends.
good luck with him
excellent. thanks for the update. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">