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Actually, yeah! They'd get a good raised eyebrow from me!
I do see what you mean though. It kinda depends on the situation for me though. If its something I could get a conversation out of then I'm usually alright. It's just when the situation isn't very interesting I get stuck.
never did stop judging and assuming i am doing so...its bad.
That is so the best time to get her number. You say 'bye, it was nice talking to you' turn and start to leave, then stop and just say 'hey, can I get your number?'
i think this is the crux of it all - i feel so pressured to act up a persona in a lot of these kind of situations - i suppose i'm lucky i can do that, i can be the chatty, crazy girl for an evening, but that's not really me - if anything then goes further i feel i've got to then keep up the act
BUT i've experimented trying to 'be me' at parties etc, i normally feel really awkward for a while, feel like i'm really quiet and dull etc but actually the most interesting conversations i've had have been when i'm not pretending - i've actually found that the most interesting and engaging people acknowledge that situations are scary too and don't expect as much as i expect them to expect (if you see what i mean!) and then my more natural, comfortable and lively side is free to come out....
It's a shame women are scary though.
Thanks!
seriously though, I do understand why you think women are scary...
Well some are just silly like Women like loud and obnoxious guys (chicks dig jerks), not generally true.
Some are very true like Women are more attracted to hansom men than ugly men, theres a generalisation for you, Id say its always true as in 99.999% of the time, heres another one
Women are more attracted to confident guys than unconfident ones, which is why it can appear that loud and obnoxious guys get girls (to be honest they generally have more chance than very shy guys)
PEOPLE not women are shallow and generally look more at the superficial than the substance, how else do you think Blair got elected.
You guys would probably do exactly the same thing with women were you sucesfull, ie ignoring the less attractive quiet ones
No way! I prefer the quieter ones.
I mean going from woman to woman just hoping that one will say yes. It just seems desperate and not very dignified. :chin:
Not realy sure what you mean there
I dont realy agree almost all wonem like a confident man, a large amount like a guy that can handle himself and a sad minority like a guy who likes beating people up cause he can.
Usually though most night club type fights are just loud confruntations with someone a similer size, which is just normal larger loutish behavure and not violence for violence sake
but what one woman may find attractiver, another will think is ugly...
These questions are GENUINE questions and concerns.
I never said it wasnt fair about not being able to get a girl and I never said its everyone else's fault
and vice versa
I think as a man, if you want to become more attractive to girls, it's important to figure out which of these are your strongest points, and the things that people are most likely to find you attractive for. You've then got to emphasise these and do something with them. It's not about changing your personality, it's about emphasising the best parts of your existing personality. But it's not about attracting girls, you've got to do it because you want to and because it will improve your life.
Girls wouldn't give a XXXX for anything else ...
Meh, I could easily go find some drunk girl to touch up but whats the point? Apart from cathcing some STDs. And why the fuck does the idea of someone going out with me frighten you? I haven't hit anyone since I was in secondary school and that was because some prick attacked me.
You know, you're pretty judgemental.
All the 'nice girls'?
What the fuck are you, some kind of sorcerer who can see everyone in the world and ascertain their personality via a quick glance?
Man, that would be fucking awesome!
Say, what are you doing home on a friday night? I thought you were supposed to be some kind of ladies man? Too obsessed with your own balls to leave the house?