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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
right, heres something rather embarrassing. to fulfill one of my boyfs fantasies i bought a massive dildo. i dont quite know how to set about using it. i can get it about an inch inside me then it hurts. i really really want to use it, but will it damage me? im not worried about stretching. should i just grin and bear it and shove the whole thing in or if i do it gradually a bit more each time will it eventually feel ok?

well, thats a horrible question and im not even sure if anyone here will be in a position to answer but its worth a shot.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thats the thing, i WANT to do it! i cant really explain why, i doubt it would make me come, but it would really really turn me on. i was totally fired up, but the second it started hurting i just went off it. i think maybe a lot more lube might help.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you trying it on your own or with him? If he's there, you're bound to feel some sort of 'pressure to perform'. Try using it when you're on your own and get yourself used to it before you share it with him.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    kasia wrote:
    i think maybe a lot more lube might help.
    :yes: most likely
    relax too
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jesus this site is becoming so PC its cringeworthy.

    Almost every post is replied to with "dont do anything if HE tells you to do it"
    "dont do anything that turns HIM on with out you" "dont do anything full fucking stop"

    Right, she has stated, not once, but twice that it TURNS HER ON, and that she wants to do it. You may not beleive her, or what ever, but hows about giving the girl some bloody advice instead of assuming this is something her boyfriend has made her do...

    As for my advice, well im not a girl, but id say try some lube, and good luck it sounds fun.
    Try not to listen to the prudes on this site, you may aswell go elsewhere for advice to be honest...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jayjay, asking if someone is geniunely comfortable about doing something sexually doesn't make them a prude, I'd check your definitions.

    Kasia - sounds to me like you need to invest in a good lubricant. There are plenty to choose from, my own personal choice are silicone based ones as a little goes a long way, and I find them much longer lasting than water-based ones, and they don't go sticky. Only drawback is that they can't be used with silicone based toys, so it's worth checking out what is compatible with materials.

    Relaxation is also key. I feel more comfortable trying new things with my boyfriend than without, but it depends on the person. A glass of wine and a warm shower beforehand wouldn't go amiss.

    Also a good idea to get used to having larger objects inside you, sometimes it's best to start off small, and work up to bigger sizes so you can enjoy it, take your time and most importantly, not do yourself any undue damage.

    HTH :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think most of the porn stars who use those big dildos probably didnt go straight into using a huge one. they probably got different sizes to get themselves used to it.
    Yes women can get a baby out of that hole, but it doesnt mean its easy, and most women scream and need painkillers for it,not to mention tear a bit too, so i think the childbirth argument isnt really a good one.
    the chances are you might not be able physically to fulfil this fantasy even if you want to (depending on the size of the dildo) maybe hed be turned on by you just playing with it and licking it etc?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    depending on the size of the dildo
    tho' i think you should be able to get more than "an inch" inside yourself
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    how big is 'massive'?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ButtonMoon wrote:
    how big is 'massive'?

    Fair point, especially in some extreme toy porn movies, they can be very very wide.

    But as SCC said, sometimes it's not possible to physically carry certain fantasties out, and knowing when to stop is important.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    go_away wrote:

    But as SCC said, sometimes it's not possible to physically carry certain fantasties out, and knowing when to stop is important.

    :yes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Equally knowing how to have fun and enjoying pushing your own boundaries.

    Only do it if your happy really only needs saying once, tbh most of the people on this board are fairly empowered so could live without the lecture.

    OP: I assume your boyfriend fingers you, one way to make the dildo a lot easier would be to increase the number of fingers he uses and the frequency, they are usually easier to get used to than an inanimate object. When you do try, make sure you are really relaxed, so make sure your not going to interrupted and that your on something that it's not a problem you get lube on (be it artificial or your own). Build up to it slowly, lube yourself and the toy. Get your inch in, then out, in and out, until that gts comfortable and gradually more and more will slide in.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    otter wrote:
    tho' i think you should be able to get more than "an inch" inside yourself
    well im assuming if thats all she can get in her, then its gonna be an extremely wide one. Does it feel like it physically wont go, or just that it stings a bit?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it just stings a bit really, we tried it again and this time i def got more in, possibly 2 inches, have to be extremely gentle though. massive would be 7.5 inches apparently, though i dont know if thats at the top of the bottom. i have kinda worked up to it, ive got another fairly big one (about 5.5 inches wide i think) that we use quite a lot, though that can still make me sore if we do it too hard. i think working up to it is the way forward.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Poke it up his arse and see how he likes it. Pft
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