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I really miss him....
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Hey people. Sorry to bore you with more relationship issues but could really use some advice.
About two years ago, in July 99 i met Scott through my best girl-friend, and we clicked straight away. Over the following months we began spending more and more time together, and he was my best friend. We did so many things together - we bothed love going to the pub and playing pool. He got me my first L-plates when i was learning to dirve, and took me on my first driving lesson up a forest track in his mates car. And it was him that i saw in the millennium with, both shit faced in the pub til 7am!!
He was there for me when my first love and i finished after the worst break up in history.
Although he was always around, i never thought of him as my boyfriend, and he knew that i didn't want it any other way. We did sleep together once, but agreed it was a drunken mistake and that a relationship would just be too awkward as we were such good mates.
In march 2000, one of my other mates set me up on a blind date with a guy who i am still seeing. However i did not tell Scott about this date, and when he found out he acted really weird. Then when he found out that i had seen the guy again, he stormed round to mine, and we had the worst argument ever. Since that night, we haven't said two words to each other, not even at new year when he was 2 metres away from me in the pub.
I miss him so much, but what makes it even worse is that my boyfriend who i went on the blind date with, hates him, and always slags him when we see him out. I hate it, but i have to go along with him in case he realises how i really feel.
I started uni last october, and in order to do so had to move 200 miles. I thought that would help, but it's made it worse.
I miss him so much. It's like a part of me is missing. I'm always remembering all the good times we had together, and all the cool stuff we did. Recently i've even been dreaming of him.
It's like this thing it haunting me. I would give anything for things to go back to the way they were. I would never forgive myself if anything happened which meant i hadn't made my peace with him. It's his 21st in january and i've thought about writing to him, or phoning him but i just can't pluck up the courage. So scared he'll just tell me to get lost.
Please help, this is affecting my current relationship. I can't talk to my bf about this as he hates the guy. Someone must have some wise words to give me...
About two years ago, in July 99 i met Scott through my best girl-friend, and we clicked straight away. Over the following months we began spending more and more time together, and he was my best friend. We did so many things together - we bothed love going to the pub and playing pool. He got me my first L-plates when i was learning to dirve, and took me on my first driving lesson up a forest track in his mates car. And it was him that i saw in the millennium with, both shit faced in the pub til 7am!!
He was there for me when my first love and i finished after the worst break up in history.
Although he was always around, i never thought of him as my boyfriend, and he knew that i didn't want it any other way. We did sleep together once, but agreed it was a drunken mistake and that a relationship would just be too awkward as we were such good mates.
In march 2000, one of my other mates set me up on a blind date with a guy who i am still seeing. However i did not tell Scott about this date, and when he found out he acted really weird. Then when he found out that i had seen the guy again, he stormed round to mine, and we had the worst argument ever. Since that night, we haven't said two words to each other, not even at new year when he was 2 metres away from me in the pub.
I miss him so much, but what makes it even worse is that my boyfriend who i went on the blind date with, hates him, and always slags him when we see him out. I hate it, but i have to go along with him in case he realises how i really feel.
I started uni last october, and in order to do so had to move 200 miles. I thought that would help, but it's made it worse.
I miss him so much. It's like a part of me is missing. I'm always remembering all the good times we had together, and all the cool stuff we did. Recently i've even been dreaming of him.
It's like this thing it haunting me. I would give anything for things to go back to the way they were. I would never forgive myself if anything happened which meant i hadn't made my peace with him. It's his 21st in january and i've thought about writing to him, or phoning him but i just can't pluck up the courage. So scared he'll just tell me to get lost.
Please help, this is affecting my current relationship. I can't talk to my bf about this as he hates the guy. Someone must have some wise words to give me...
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I think that you do like the guy you have fallen out with as more than a mate and no offence but your bf's attitude is pathetic.
I think you should dump yr bf and ring or write a letter to the ex mate and tell him how you feel. I think that mate means more to you than the bf and if you miss this guy like you say then do take my advice and do something about it.
let us know how u get on!..and good luck!
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The other thing is that it's his 21st coming up in January and i thought about sending him something he would know could only have come from me. Does that sound stupid?
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I think the one thing people are forgetting is that although I dont agree with ur b.friend slagging the bloke of, he may just see the bloke as a threat to him and to be honest by the sounds of it i can see why.
yeah i think my bf does see him as a threat. but i just want to talk to the guy again. only then will i know how it's gonna be
Im so percistant coz i was in the same situation once, except, i didnt sort it out. I feel awful everyday and i think about her everyday. I cant get back iin touch with her coz i've no idea where she is, last i heard was Oxford, i went there (the area she lived) looked up in phone books and everything. I couldn't find her. I've even used people search on the net, nothing comes up. So if you dont get back in touch with your mate for your own mind, do it for mine.
the perception of reality, is as perceptive as reality itself
thanks wolf. sorry to hear about your situation, but maybe that's what i need to hear to spur me on. i would never forgive myself if i lost him.
will let you know how i get on if i pluck up enough courage to send the five million letter i have started. thanks again
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