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Whats the right age to get engaged? For the bloke and for the girl?
Also does the ring have to be gold or can it be silver/plantinum?
Do girls like an expensive ring or one that they have chosen and that they link?
And finnaly, how long would you say is a good time to be with each other before you get engaged?
Thanxs
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Also does the ring have to be gold or can it be silver/plantinum?
Do girls like an expensive ring or one that they have chosen and that they link?
And finnaly, how long would you say is a good time to be with each other before you get engaged?
Thanxs
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as for the ring, i think its traditional for it to be gold and usually a girl hints at what rings she likes however, a suprise can also be good. if your plannin on asking a girl to get engaged and want to suprise her ask her closest mate who can hopefully help u out with a nice ring.
Bloody hell, I bet he hasnt bought a ring though has he ??
I don't know whether the fact their 15 or been together for two weeks before getting "engaged" sounds more unbelieavable. I have strong views about marriage and the ceremony and so doing stuff like that makes a mockery of the whole system.
I believe couples who think they will be getting married in the future should get engaged and not some immature 15 yr olds. Sorry if that sounds harsh.
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a tad pessimistic perhaps? friend of mine, got together with this guy, they didnt spend a single day apart for almost a month. then, for one day they had to go different places, and the next day her b/f said he couldnt stand the thought of being without her, and proposed. real romantic with a ring and everything (it was silver, fyi). he's 19, she's 17, they're gonna do one of those extended engagement type things. mind you, he moved in with her a few weeks ago (they've been goin out for about 4 months now). innit sweet!! they are just the cutest couple ever, and when joanne talks about her 'fiancé' it kinda reminds you that getting engaged really does mean somethin special.
"we have intercourse in every direction" - Karl Marx, The Communist Manifesto (honest!!)
Although you may love your partner and cannont stand the thought of life without them there is a few things to think of.
1.How many times do you see people falling head over heels in love and then spltting up over someit stupid?
2.if your partner is a student what happens if they have to move uni?
3. Ask yourself is getting engaged a sign of your love and devotion and thoughts of marridge? or just for show?
I think you should leave getting engaged until at least your ready to settle down with this person so mayb after 2or3yrs into the relationship.
It is tradition for it to be gold but it doesnt have to be. Go into a jewelers and speak to some one.
Any way look after your self and I hope you make the right desision.
Good luck
dazed and confused
If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
(I'd go 4 white-gold n' diamonds, or just one really big one)
You messin wi' me pal????
[This message has been edited by Chevalier (edited 01-11-2001).]
But fraser, sweetie, we know you're a hopeless romantic.
:P
Just marry when you feel ready.
It may be for some, not for others. I doubt it would be for me (as I only believe in love between friends, not in the romantic sense) but it may be for others (like fraser, if they make it legal).
Just do like you believe. If you are really ready, it shouldnt matter what age you are. You control your own destiny.
As for the ring thing, its just a symbol to prove devotion (I refuse to call it something I dont believe in). Thats what counts. The Promise.
Gabrielle
xxx
Carve your name into my arm, instead of stressed I lie here charmed
Im actually a hopeless romantic myself but recently i've begun to think that too turtle.
~Dreamer
Slight hint of pessimism Gabz????
and just thought you'd bring gay marriage into the equation, huh
You messin wi' me pal????
There was an old theory that the ideal age for the lady is half the man's age plus 7 years, though how and why this theory comes about is a mystery........
There is no right or wrong age to get engaged, although it helps if you're a little older than say, your teens(15 or so) as at this age you're still maturing,and don't quite know what you want etc.al.
Traditionally, the engagement ring is gold, but it can be made from anything,as it's the thought that counts. (Mine is white gold) my fiancé's best friends fiancee chose it, I had no idea it was coming.
As for the time you've been together, that also doesn't matter. So long as you love eachother enough to realise that getting engaged means getting married, and spending the rest of your lives together, spending 24/7 with each other for always, and belonging to each other and nobody else(sexually,emotionally,etc.) for always, then great.
It's a big step, I only wish you well in whatever you choose to do, and hope you think it through all the way.
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Me? Pessimistic? Never.
And hey, if gay people want to get married why not? Surely you agree with me here Fraz
Carve your name into my arm, instead of stressed I lie here charmed
My ring is silver with a wee, tiny diamond in it, and i picked it myself. we dont have much money so it wasnt expensive but i dont think it has to be as it is only a symbol at the end of the day. if ur girlfriend doesnt wear a lot of gold, dont get her gold, or if she doesnt like jewellrey get her something simple.
Good luck if u do pop the question! I hope u are as happy as we are.
The ring can be whatever you want, a suprise is nice, if you're thinking about getting engaged you should know her taste pretty well. White gold works well instead of silver, its that bit more special. It doesn't have to be very expensive, but it should be the only one she gets if you are serious, so it should be special.
I think you should have been together at leadt a year or so before thinking about etting engaged, so you know it is love and not that you just think it is... lust can fade and then you feel stuck. I know some people have got engaged after whirlwind relationships and stayed together and are still in love so it depends on the person.
I got engaged when i was 18, i had been going out with him 6 months, I was convinced it was going to last, then i went to uni and just started feeling trapped. I was maturing and realising that my fiance wasn't the bloke for me, we had less and less in common. This won't happen to everyone obviously but you have to bare it in mind, you don't really know what you want when you are young. We split and I am now madly in love with my boyfriend, but we haven't discussed marriage and won't for a long time yet. I want to be 100% sure next time cos marriage is sacred.
kie xxx
.:*~we're all heterosexual by default~*:.
Shut it weirdo, of course I do I am G A Y sadgirl not just savin myself for you.
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And he seemed like such a nice boy