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Boyfriend probs
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Well as some of you may know I have recently moved to Derby to be with my boyfriend but all is not peachy. Since Sunday we have been arguing and not really talking to each other.
The reason we are arguging is becuase since i have moved down (2 months ago) I feel that my boyfriend hasn't appreciated what I have done for him. Also he never takes me any where or make any effort to do anything when we are together and its really annoying me. Some of you might think its a stupid reason. I have told him how i feel but then he makes out that he is the victom but he isn't. I have given up everything for him my friends, family and a good job and he just doesn't seem bothered. I don't know what to do. Sorry if this makes no sense really upset at the moment and my head is all over the place. Help someone!
The reason we are arguging is becuase since i have moved down (2 months ago) I feel that my boyfriend hasn't appreciated what I have done for him. Also he never takes me any where or make any effort to do anything when we are together and its really annoying me. Some of you might think its a stupid reason. I have told him how i feel but then he makes out that he is the victom but he isn't. I have given up everything for him my friends, family and a good job and he just doesn't seem bothered. I don't know what to do. Sorry if this makes no sense really upset at the moment and my head is all over the place. Help someone!
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Is there anything stopping him? i.e money? Have you asked him why?
I have asked him why but all he says is that he can never think of things to do and we can't go out for meals becuase he is really fussy and won't eat much food becuase he doesn't like it even though he never tries things. Sorry you prob think this is really petty.
1) He can't think of what to do.
O So why not try and organise something?
O See a film
O Go for a walk
O Make a list and get him to choose something
2) He's a fussy eater
O Why not ask him what he'd like to eat, and cook/order it in.
O Or go for a picnic when its sunny again
I think part of the problem is, you're annoyed with him not doing things with you and slowly by thinking about this all the time, it may get exaggerated in your mind. But then again, I dont really know your situation, its just a possibility.
I think if you keeping holding the fact that you moved for him, that's going to put a real strain on your relationship. Think of it as "I moved for us"
Maybe you can make the first move. The weather is pretty nice. Is there a beach near Derby? Preferably with sand. That might de-stress you both and you can bond by err making sandcastles
I recently went to the beach with my boyfriend. At the time I was stressed out and getting narked with him but just being in a different more relaxed environment works wonders.
Also him being fussy is really bad all he will eat is burger, sausages, chips, meatballs and rubbish. His idea of taking me out for a meal is going to Mcds.
Also if we ever did go out he never makes an effort in his apperience. He would just go anywhere in a tshirt and tracky bottoms and trainers (he isn'ta chav btw) His personal hygene is very poor aswell. I have to moan at him to shave and go for a wash and things and does my head in.
If you try places like that he might see that eating out isnt that bad and get more interested in doing it.
What do you have in common?
It just seems like it's you who's making all the effort and that's not fair, a relationship is meant to be a two way street, he needs to start pulling his weight.
Tell him would like to do more and would like to feel that he is putting as much effort into this relationship as you are as otherwise it won't work.
Perhaps you should tell him what will happen if things don't improve.
As for not having much in Derby, you said this a few posts up
I won't I will give him 2 months max and if no change then its over.
If he used to be different, make more of an effort etc, then you need to talk to him and get to the bottom of why he doesnt any more.
Is he twelve?
if not then he's just an idle arse tbh
I know I am sorry but he is 21 and he is just lazy.