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Met him on a train!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Hi! O.k, I new on here. I have a question for you peeps.

The other day I sat next to a really fit guy on the train. When he left he gave me a note. It was real cute, saying how he was going to start chatting to me, but wussed out. He gave me his email addy. I've been texting him and emailling him a bit and he seems really nice. There's not been anything flirty in the texts or emails really.

The issue I have is do I meet up with him? Coz in the end he is just a randomer. What does everyone think? It would be real awkward to meet him, given that I don't actually know him.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How long have you been chatting wit him?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When im meeting someone for the first time i always feel that you need loads of confidence to make a situation less werid. Whe you meet him, chat about how the trip was like, talk about mates, music just anything that really interests you and him
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    aw thats so cute :)
    given the situation, i would say give meeting up a try!! thats what i would do :yes:

    if youve been chatting for a while and he seems nice then give it a shot - he may be even nicer in person! and if not - all you have to do is give an excuse and leave!

    i went on a 'blind date' a few months back (i had never seen or spoken to the guy) and i was extremely nervous that it would be awkward and we would have nothing to say to each other - but in the end it was fine!! just be yourself and everything should work out!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Anns wrote:
    Coz in the end he is just a randomer.

    Everyone is just a randomer until you get to know them. The kid you sat next to on your first day of secondary school was just a randomer until she became your best friend. The guy living next door to you in university halls was just a randomer until you guys hooked up. The girl with the desk next to yours at your new job was just a randomer until you bonded over tales of your mean boss. Get to know him and see what happens! If you don't meet him you'll never know.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My god, this is so obviously a move. You don't believe him do you? Trust me, any guy who's confident enough to slip a girl a note saying that, is confident enough to talk to you. Sounds like a plan to me, to make you go "Awww, that's so sweet, I bet he's a really nice guy once you bring him out of his shell". Call me cynical if you will, but I reckon this guy knows exactly what he's doing.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sophia wrote:
    Either that or I'm completely gullible and naive, which thinking about it is more than likely. I thought it was quite sweet, it would probably have worked on me :D
    Exactly, it was quite good wasn't it? I think she should go out with him just for showing a bit of initiative. And then take the piss out of him for being as subtle as the sexual metaphors in that Benny Benassi video.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This guy isn't called Tim is he? Because one of my friends on Livejournal wrote an entry a couple of days ago saying he'd done that exact thing! Wussed out of talking to a cute girl he was sitting next to, but left an note - except he only left his number I think, and she hadn't called when I read his journal...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds like a nice story.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Have only been texting him a couple of days. He did seem genuine - but that's what I was saying how do I actually know?!! It is all so cute, but just kinda scared about meeting a guy who I've never spoken to!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    2 days isn't enough imo... text, email and phone call for at least 2 weeks would be best... after meet in a public place and let know someone where you go...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If he lives near you, even just see whether he's going out on the piss or something and text to meet up when you're both with your friends.
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    littlemissylittlemissy Posts: 9,972 Supreme Poster
    I would meet up. Definitely.

    This is how friendships and / or relationships start out. You have to bite the bullet, give it a go and see what happens. If you don't click after meeting again, then forget about it. But if you do click then it could be the start of something nice.
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