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boyfriend cums to quick
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i know its nasty, but i cant stand it anymore he cums after like 2 mins, hes been to the doctor before because he couldnt get it up and the doctor just said it was nerves, wot the hell has he got to be nervous about when we been together for the past 7 months. any advice how i can stop him from cuming to quick i dont want to say anything because hes funny about it already!
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i dont think im abnormal, thats just how it goes!
the girlfriend hasnt complained yet!
also it could help if when he feels the sensation to blow, that yous stop until the sensation blows over. keep doing this and it may help in him lasting longer
The suggestions have been right so far - start and stop, engage in other sexual stuff or let him come and then build it up again.
ouch
I was watching the animal planet the other day, thats how the horrible mean cheap sick bastard people that are too poor to get it done and try to do it themselves neuter animals. They arrested some people cuz they found they had done that to their dog.
I'd go run screaming if I was your boyfriend. Trying to cut off his manhood.
If he gets really close to coming, tell him to rest for a minute and finger you. Then go again, maybe in a different position so it doesn't seem monotonous. Keep him on his toes, take a bit of control and make him enjoy the whole thing more rather than just pounding till he comes. Durex performa might work, but thats a physiological thing. I think its a bit unfair of a girl to say 'the sex is good, but you dont last long enough, so desensitive yourself' - because they're basically depriving the guy of a bit of his pleasure. But if you can work out a way between you where you can enjoy each other, then it will be smiles all round. They could help to elongate things, its great when a guy gets so aroused, he could come by the girl blowing air over him.
I agree to that because I though the first time you cum in a session is always the quickest. After that, you can knock it out and not have to worry :thumb:
:rolleyes:
On a more serious note, you could try getting him to wear 2 condoms to dull the sensation so he can last longer. That or try and be as unsexy as possible to keep him from getting too excited.
I usually have sex w/o condoms, and so having one on makes him last longer. But yea, get him off beforehand, maybe two times, once every hour/half hour.
Yuck
but to be honest ive got used to the speed he takes and most times i can get there about the same time he does
Secondly, it's hardly surprising he has issues with his bedroom performance given your delicate handling of the situation.
However if you want to make him stay the distance make him come before he goes near you. And make him pleasure you loads before he enters you, therefore at least if he does come quickly you've had your fun.
You mean with lots of foreplay first? So you're already on the brink. Or do you have some superhuman ability?
it's not superhuman, it's luck
At least he comes, you'd be pissed off if he couldn't, you'd probably think it was you fault. Plus he might of not of been in that many sexual relationships, which could have something to do with it?
More foreplay I thinks.
Speed and opiates work well too..
They make condoms with benzocaine in them, to numb you out for a bit.
You need to chill out a bit. Sex in a relationship like yours (which i'm judging completly on the duration, so i'm assuming you like him alot..) should be a team effort, there is a lot of working together and experimenting that needs to take place.