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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Are there any overweight people here? You don't have to answer if you want, I'm just wondering now. Been drinking and thinking. I was channel surfing and stopped on a show called Moniques Fat Chance or something. Its just some reality show, they are all the same, but for big people, and not a weight loss show, but one to show themselves off.

Sometimes I wish I could be like that. Its not about if they are unhealthy and spend their days with haggen daz or if they have a medical condition, it doesn't matter. Its just being not some stick thing. Comfortable in your own skin. I wish I could be like that. Not have to despise the rest of my day because I couldn't get the Pizza Hut for lunch and ate a yogurt instead. I freak out when I dry my jeans too much and they get too snug when I first put them on.

Its not the thin people that I secretly strive to be like, its the ones that can break the scale and still be so sexy. They are sexy because they are confidant, They know they look good. They're confidant in who they are.

I know, sorry, I think alot of overweight people are not confidant and insecure and what not, but the ones I just saw, even if it was for tv and deep inside its not true, but it was great.

I know pretty much nothing will change my mind, I'll always be freaked out with how I look and still cry on the inside when the dryer shrinks the waste of my pants for a few hours, but I wish I could be like that. I wish I could just throw on that next size up and not care. Beautiful and confident. Happy with what you are no matter what.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i always think the obese people who are "proud to be big" are kidding themselves.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm overweight. I wouldn't say I'm obesse but I'm a big lad.

    No, I'm not happy with it. It's not the only reason I have no confidence, it's not the only reason I'm insecure but it's certainly the main one. It's why I don't go out or socialise as often as I should. I just don't want anyone to look at me. It's why this whole 'beauty pagent' thing made me feel deeply uncomfortable.

    It's only recently that I've been able to go outside without a million layers on, to try and hide myself. It's taken years for me to be able to go out wearing nothing over my t-shirt. And I still feel horrendously self-conscious.

    Of course, no one besides me actually gives a shit about my weight. But it cast such a cloud over everything because I've focused on it and it's become the Bowser to my Mario (that and geeky analogies :o ). 'If I was thinner I wouldn't have as many problems', 'If I wasn't as fat, girls would like me'.

    And it's all bullshit. If I wasn't so focused on believing that I looked like shit, that I'm unattractive or that anyone besides me actually gives a damn, I'd have my pick (maybe :o )

    Urghhhhh, I ranted.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lipsy wrote:
    i always think the obese people who are "proud to be big" are kidding themselves.
    I think it's bullshit too. But mainly because I think you can only be proud of things you've worked to achieve. Being proud to be big is like being proud to be black, in other words bullshit. You don't say 'well done' for being black, just like you don't say 'well done' for being anything else, because it's not an achievement. But I think what they mean is that they are a confident person, who's happy with themselves, and their size/colour (or anything else that society looks down on) isn't any sort of a factor in it, which to me is entirely believable.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lipsy wrote:
    i always think the obese people who are "proud to be big" are kidding themselves.

    To an extent, yes.

    I'm overweight, not grotesquely, but I could do with shedding a stone or so. I'd look better if I did, and I know I would, but I will always be a big man regardless. I eat healthily but I should exercise more. I will never be svelte, I'm not built that way. I've come to accept that, and it doesn't bother me, so I suppose my weight doesn't really bother me.

    What people mean is that they are proud of themselves. I'm proud of myself, even if the odd chav does swear at me.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it's bullshit too. But mainly because I think you can only be proud of things you've worked to achieve. Being proud to be big is like being proud to be black, in other words bullshit. You don't say 'well done' for being black, just like you don't say 'well done' for being anything else, because it's not an achievement. But I think what they mean is that they are a confident person, who's happy with themselves, and their size/colour (or anything else that society looks down on) isn't any sort of a factor in it, which to me is entirely believable.
    yeah i agree - call me nasty but the ones who are unhealthy and putting their health at serious risk, i can't see what there is to be proud to be so big you're unhealthy. Where's the achievement in that?
    But if they can be happy in their skin then good for them. But i do think some would be kidding themselves.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it's bullshit too. But mainly because I think you can only be proud of things you've worked to achieve. Being proud to be big is like being proud to be black, in other words bullshit. You don't say 'well done' for being black, just like you don't say 'well done' for being anything else, because it's not an achievement. But I think what they mean is that they are a confident person, who's happy with themselves, and their size/colour (or anything else that society looks down on) isn't any sort of a factor in it, which to me is entirely believable.

    Being "proud" doesn't automatically mean you deserve praise.

    I would say I'm proud to be a brunette, proud to be english, proud to be white, proud to be a girl and probably a million more things, but that doesn't mean people should say "well done" for it.

    Why is being proud to be black bullshit? I think you'll find lots of black people are proud of their skin colour, heritage, race, etc.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Being proud to be big is like being proud to be black, in other words bullshit. You don't say 'well done' for being black, just like you don't say 'well done' for being anything else, because it's not an achievement.
    did you used to listen to Stannage? :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ^_^ wrote:
    Why is being proud to be black bullshit? I think you'll find lots of black people are proud of their skin colour, heritage, race, etc.
    People are proud to be black because of what it represents (i.e. the achievements of the black race). I personally think that this is bullshit, because I don't believe that you can be personally proud of the achievements of another individual, just because they happen to have the same skin colour of you, or happen to have been born in the same geographical location. But I suppose it's the mentality of belonging to something. People like to think they've achieved something, when in fact they personally had nothing to do with it.

    How are you proud to be brunette? You might be happy to be a brunette, but I doubt you're proud. But you tell me. What is it about being brunette that makes you proud?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lipsy wrote:
    did you used to listen to Stannage? :p
    Who or what the fuck is Stannage?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Who or what the fuck is Stannage?
    language! James Stannage is a controversial dj who used to have a late-night show on key 103. he's moved somewhere else now, well got the sack i think. he used to bang on about how people shouldn't be proud to be english just because they were randomly born there.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    People are proud to be black because of what it represents (i.e. the achievements of the black race). I personally think that this is bullshit, because I don't believe that you can be personally proud of the achievements of another individual, just because they happen to have the same skin colour of you, or happen to have been born in the same geographical location. But I suppose it's the mentality of belonging to something. People like to think they've achieved something, when in fact they personally had nothing to do with it.

    How are you proud to be brunette? You might be happy to be a brunette, but I doubt you're proud. But you tell me. What is it about being brunette that makes you proud?

    Well, I personally think that you can be proud to be a certain race or whatever, not because of what people from that race have achieved, but basically, (like you said) that you belong. I don't think that you have to achieve something to be proud.

    I'm proud to be a brunette because, uh, it's better than being blonde. ;) It's rather aesthetically pleasing too.

    Let's just agree to disagree m'kay?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lipsy wrote:
    language!
    :blush::(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not proud to be somewhat overweight, but I have now reached a stage where I don't think I can blame it for any failures in life. I can now look at myself in the mirror and think 'pwhoarr, you look fine!'. I know I need to excercise more and eat healthier and lose weight but I feel good about myself.

    Although I'm about to start my period soon and I feel quite fat and bloated. :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    People are proud to be black because of what it represents (i.e. the achievements of the black race).

    You are entitled to yur opinion but I can assure you that your asserion is non a universal truth.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jaloux wrote:
    I'm not proud to be somewhat overweight, but I have now reached a stage where I don't think I can blame it for any failures in life. I can now look at myself in the mirror and think 'pwhoarr, you look fine!'. I know I need to excercise more and eat healthier and lose weight but I feel good about myself.

    Although I'm about to start my period soon and I feel quite fat and bloated. :(


    I agree here. I think people who are so obese that they can't even move and are a risk to themselves, really need to get their act together before they kill themselves.

    I am overweight, and wasn't down about it, but I do sometimes get upset because I can't get clothes from some stores because they only go up to a size 16. I do need to lose weight, and eat a bit healthier, but I don't eat excessive junk, like MacD's and KFC etc. I'd choose Subway over them any day.

    But I'm happy, I've never not gone anywhere cause of my size, and now that I finally have a boyfriend, he has boosted my confidence and confidence in myself.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ^_^ wrote:
    Being "proud" doesn't automatically mean you deserve praise.

    I would say I'm proud to be a brunette, proud to be english, proud to be white, proud to be a girl and probably a million more things, but that doesn't mean people should say "well done" for it.

    Why is being proud to be black bullshit? I think you'll find lots of black people are proud of their skin colour, heritage, race, etc.

    yeah i was going to say that same thing - i think that was quite a racist comment and i am proud to be white, proud of where i come from, etc, so black people can be proud of their colour and nationality. However i do agree about overweight people being proud of their size is a bit stupid - because they are proud that they are unhealthy...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree here. I think people who are so obese that they can't even move and are a risk to themselves, really need to get their act together before they kill themselves.

    I am overweight, and wasn't down about it

    But I'm happy, I've never not gone anywhere cause of my size, and now that I finally have a boyfriend, he has boosted my confidence and confidence in myself.

    good for you - i think this is the right attitude - being happy with your size - not necessercerily proud.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    when i was 13 i was a size 14/16...i was big
    now i'm 10/12 and i still need to loose 7 pounds to be within the right BMI thing. and i'm still not happy with "me". i don't honestly think that if i was size 8 and tall it would make any difference. i had years of people telling me i was ugly and unfortunatly i believed them. and plus i developed bad comfort eatting habits which are very difficult to break.

    i really think its more about accepting and loving things you have, eyes, hips, boobs whatever. being stick thin is no more attractive than being obese, but finding a good medium that YOU are comfortable. one thing that i've found has really changed how i see my body is piercings. once i started getting piecings done, i found that i've become much more comfortable, not as comfortable as i would like, but i no longer hate my body. don't love parts but i think tattoos and piercings have made my body a bit more part of the inside me that i like...if that makes any sense?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think thin people get a lot of stick too nowadays (harhar). Yes it's good in magazines that they have quotes such as 'I like my women curvy..gives me sumfink to grab onto...PHWOAR' but when it turns into 'I dont want a bag of bones' is when I get sliiightly offended.

    I'm naturally slim. Slim not thin which would imply I'm a starving anorexic. I've had people I have just met say 'Oh gosh you're sooooo thin'. Even one div start prodding my hip bone. (I was not amused)
    People who announce that you are a skinny minny may see this as a compliment but to me it's like doing a Borat and going upto a person and announcing 'YOU ARE FATT!'.

    Just pointing out that it's very difficult to be the right weight that is free from critacism.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    katralla wrote:
    You are entitled to yur opinion but I can assure you that your asserion is non a universal truth.
    Never said it was. I was merely giving an example of why someone is able to say they are proud to be black, in a way that people can't, about other physical features, such as having a particular colour hair or eyes (or being fat, as that's what the topic is about).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jenni30 wrote:
    yeah i was going to say that same thing - i think that was quite a racist comment and i am proud to be white, proud of where i come from, etc, so black people can be proud of their colour and nationality.
    How is it racist to think it's stupid that people are proud of a physical feature of their body or what location on the planet they happened to be born?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont understand being proud of something you have no control over. Being proud seems like saying yes this particular thing is better than...so and so.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you are proud of being black you are proud of yourself and your community.

    Christ, it isn't rocket science.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit wrote:
    If you are proud of being black you are proud of yourself and your community.
    Exactly. Some people are 'proud to be black' because they believe that it represents something beyond just a physical feature. The same cannot be said of being fat or having a particular hair colour, and therefore I don't believe that anyone can genuinely be proud for such a thing.
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