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Casual with Ex...???
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So, my girlfriend made up her mind that as long as things are long distance we cannot be a couple because it is too hard for her. I suggested we stay friends and she loves that idea and as she says, she still loves me as i do her, its just too hard when im not there all the time and have to make loads of effort to go see her.
Well, she suggested we should be "casual" from now on.
What does that mean? Well according to her, when im in Newcastle with her or She is in Leeds with me we would go out, hold hands, be a couple and have sex, but the rest of the time when we are not together we are just friends.
Can that work? Is it even a good idea? It sounds fun from the sex point of view...but surely if she still loves me she will find i hard to just be casual, because right now, i dont know if i can be "casual" and nothing else.
What does anyone think?
Well, she suggested we should be "casual" from now on.
What does that mean? Well according to her, when im in Newcastle with her or She is in Leeds with me we would go out, hold hands, be a couple and have sex, but the rest of the time when we are not together we are just friends.
Can that work? Is it even a good idea? It sounds fun from the sex point of view...but surely if she still loves me she will find i hard to just be casual, because right now, i dont know if i can be "casual" and nothing else.
What does anyone think?
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She's being quite selfish.
Have to agree.
Casual has to be a two way thing that both people are 100% cool with, and that isn't the case.
Clean break I reckon :yes:
She wants to have you when it requires no effort and suits her, but for the rest of the time when shes alone without anyone there for her, she wants to be allowed to have other people too.