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As he's pointed out, until 1991 you could legally rape your wife. It wasn't parliament that changed that law, either, it was the House of Lords with R v X.
Why would a Parliament prepared to keep a law like that on the statute books then be prepared to change the law to help women prove rape?
phew, glad I asked nicely before a red rage response
Really?
So if the guy gets convicted she will become happy again? She will recover just like that?
Is rape really that inconsequential?
Maybe its just me, you apparently think differently..but I see rape as quite a big deal... :shrug: it has a hugely devastating effect on a woman...The damage gets done and wont be undone simply by throwing the guy in prison.
We need to stop the rapes from happening.
Give better advice to women on how to protect themselves.
Give free self defence classes.
Advise women or men infact to not be alone at any time during a night out or in dangerous areas.
Crackdown on rape drugs.
Impose harsher sentences.
I had a friend who was raped by a friend of her boyfriend. She could not prove in court that he did rape her. So we seeked him out and did what needed to be done. She never needed to know. I agree with Balddog, knowing it or him getting convicted wouldn't help her. She was distraught for ages. And the only help she got really is from us, her friends.
Maybe there needs to be more available support to those who have been raped.
And maybe, just maybe, society can stop treating people who've been raped as a guilty party.
There's definitely room for improvement.
First of all, i don't see where I said that we need to alter women's behaviour.
In all my good will, I was actually thinking of how women can equip themselves better to defend themselves in case someone does try something.
Who said that rape was inevitable?
Who said that rapes will always occur?
Who said all men were rapists?
As for being jumpy walking down the street, that does not apply to women only, it applies to anyone, male or female. I myself, even though i can completely take care of myself am very self aware and very much aware of my surroundings if I am going home alone late at night.
As for preventing men raping women, I assume you mean we have to identify men who are potential rapists, which is all good, but how are we exactly gonna do that? I don't get what you mean there...sorry.
It's a nice ideal to have that we can all feel safe one day etc...but unfortunately we live in a real world where no one is completely safe and bad things can happen to anyone who turns out to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Excuse me, are you calling me dangerous and chauvinistic?
I was brought up to respect women and men and treat anyone as I would like to be treated...
I DO NOT need to change my behaviour. And why are you talking like a big majority of men are potentially rapists if not deviant?
And also I can't see where you found Sophia's point of limiting women to prevent rape? Where did she say that? Where did I imply that?
Where's this hate for men come from?
I think you'll find most men who would be considered as chauvinist by the feminist mindset are, in reality, highly protective of women and abhor rape as much as anyone else. Some guys are just sick fucks with no morals.
Also slightly ironic you're having a go at chauvinist attitudes when sophie, with whom you "agree totally" displays a blatantly chauvinist avatar don't you think?
If you are asking me to use common sense, than you should do the same thing, no?
I never implied women need to limit themselves or change their behaviour. Going back home in pairs or a taxi rather than alone is purely common sense.
And I ask again, how you gonna identify potential rapists and "change" them?
It's hard to have a discussion with someone who is not able to see both sides of the coin. That's the last thing I have to say about this.