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Question about condoms
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So, in the next few days I'll be having sex with my boyfriend for the first time (I'm a virgin, he's not). I feel ready now and am looking forward to it. Next week he's going away for three weeks and I'd like to do it before then. In the long run I'd like to go on the pill, but I don't have time to start before he leaves so we'll be using a condom (which we'll probably keep doing anyway).
The thing is, I'm worried about condoms. I know how to use one and I know they're supposed to be 98% effective... but I have sooo many friends who have horror stories about condoms, including two who have had abortions, and one whose condom broke the first three times she had sex. There is no way I want to go there. I'm aware they might have been careless, but it still worries me. Also, this is more or less my most fertile time of the month.
Am I getting worked up about nothing? As long as we're careful, should I be confident that a condom will protect me? Or should I just wait until my boyfriend gets home and I've had time to get started on the pill?
Sorry if this sounds like a stupid question. I'm just trying to be responsible and not take risks.
The thing is, I'm worried about condoms. I know how to use one and I know they're supposed to be 98% effective... but I have sooo many friends who have horror stories about condoms, including two who have had abortions, and one whose condom broke the first three times she had sex. There is no way I want to go there. I'm aware they might have been careless, but it still worries me. Also, this is more or less my most fertile time of the month.
Am I getting worked up about nothing? As long as we're careful, should I be confident that a condom will protect me? Or should I just wait until my boyfriend gets home and I've had time to get started on the pill?
Sorry if this sounds like a stupid question. I'm just trying to be responsible and not take risks.
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To make you feel more confident when you buy a packet of condoms you can read the little pamphlet that comes with it. Condoms are pretty strong and unless you have claw like nails or razerblades on your hands I'm sure you'll be fine anyway
I'm aware of the emergency contraception pill and while I think it's good that it's available, I don't want to factor it into the equation too much because ideally it shouldn't get to that stage. I'm certainly not going to start relying on it.
Relax, stay safe, and enjoy yourself :thumb:
perhaps you should buy the xxl ones