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Boyfriend that will not give up drugs
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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He smokes pot every once in awhile. Maybe once a month if that. He is not hooked on it since it is not a habit forming drug, but it is a mentally habit forming drug. He tells me that he will not di it forever and that he will quit when he wants to. He only does it when he is with his friends and I am not there. I have told him that I dislike it and that it upsets me. He feels as if I should love him unconditionally and not try to change him. I love him alot, but I get so sressed, angry and upset when I find out he has gotten high with his friends. I have not a clue what to do or say anymore. Am I just suppose to ignore this and hope he quits or am I fighting an never ending battle?
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Call me cynical, but I think that guys never grow out of anything.
Maybe he wants attention - or maybe he just wants to do whatever he likes. You are to eb tehre for him, but when he is with his mates, he does what he likes, whether it is getting pissed or high.
If u get stressed n angry, well smoke it urself to chill out <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
[This message has been edited by Daze (edited 16-08-2000).]
If he expects her 2 do everything 4 him and b there 4 him then she needs a little something in return! He should listen 2 her and realise it upsets her and give it a rest. If he gets stressed then he turn 2 his girlfriend or close pals instead of a bunch of s**t coz he thinks he's pure mad doin it wi his pals!
My situation is kinda worse. My bf takes ecstacy and i hate it! I told him that and he said he'd stop. About 2 weeks later i found out he'd bn lying 2 me and wiz still takin it.
Then again he'd said he's given up and, despite the fact he'd lied b4,i trusted him. Then about a month later a pal let it slip he had taken 1 that nite. I was really upset. We had a big fight,but then he took me 4 a walk and said how sorry he was about everything.
The thing is i know he was only doin it coz he was on that. He said things were gonna change, but the next day things were back 2 normal. I dont want him 2 get hurt but i dont want 2 lose him either.
Cheeky*