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Boyfriend that will not give up drugs

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He smokes pot every once in awhile. Maybe once a month if that. He is not hooked on it since it is not a habit forming drug, but it is a mentally habit forming drug. He tells me that he will not di it forever and that he will quit when he wants to. He only does it when he is with his friends and I am not there. I have told him that I dislike it and that it upsets me. He feels as if I should love him unconditionally and not try to change him. I love him alot, but I get so sressed, angry and upset when I find out he has gotten high with his friends. I have not a clue what to do or say anymore. Am I just suppose to ignore this and hope he quits or am I fighting an never ending battle?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybee he is just after attention from you and like you begging him not to do it. Alot of guys like this. Just tell him its OK and you don't mind and ignore him.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks maybe he does want attention. he often does, but I do not feel as if I don't give enough already. I do everything for him. I feel like his wife already sometimes. I feel as if he needs attention from everybody and anybody that my attention is not enough. He is 25, do guys ever grow out of this stage?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Zaire:
    Thanks maybe he does want attention. He is 25, do guys ever grow out of this stage?

    Call me cynical, but I think that guys never grow out of anything.

    Maybe he wants attention - or maybe he just wants to do whatever he likes. You are to eb tehre for him, but when he is with his mates, he does what he likes, whether it is getting pissed or high.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Pigeon-holing men isn't very fair. Everyone likes attention (especially women) and people did change but only if they'r aware of their mistakes - have you asked him why he smokes it?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yes I have asked him why he smokes it and he says he just injoys it. He thinks that it makes him relaxed. he smokes it more when his back is hurting or he is stressed out. That is one of the reasons I hate it so much. I do not like the fact that he feels as if he has to get high to feel better.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    fucking hell. Whats wrong with you? He only smokes dope once a month. You would think he is hooked on smack and mugging old women for money the way you are talking. Forget about it. Its not gonna kill him.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    come on.....get over it. smokin once a month is tantamount to being monastic. this guy should be at liberty to do what he wants - certainly. more than that, however, we should all be joining in -legalise it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Smoking dope 1ce a month?? reckon ur overeacting a bit. Only start getting worried if he's smoking over an ounce a week cos it's expensive.
    If u get stressed n angry, well smoke it urself to chill out <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">;

    [This message has been edited by Daze (edited 16-08-2000).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Once a month? I occasionally save some up and have it all in one go. Once ate a lump of resin. Tasted like shit, took 30mins to kick in but after 40mins I couldn't even walk.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well i think u guys who r saying "once a month?! Thats fine, cill out"...and all ur s**t r dafties!
    If he expects her 2 do everything 4 him and b there 4 him then she needs a little something in return! He should listen 2 her and realise it upsets her and give it a rest. If he gets stressed then he turn 2 his girlfriend or close pals instead of a bunch of s**t coz he thinks he's pure mad doin it wi his pals!
    My situation is kinda worse. My bf takes ecstacy and i hate it! I told him that and he said he'd stop. About 2 weeks later i found out he'd bn lying 2 me and wiz still takin it.
    Then again he'd said he's given up and, despite the fact he'd lied b4,i trusted him. Then about a month later a pal let it slip he had taken 1 that nite. I was really upset. We had a big fight,but then he took me 4 a walk and said how sorry he was about everything.
    The thing is i know he was only doin it coz he was on that. He said things were gonna change, but the next day things were back 2 normal. I dont want him 2 get hurt but i dont want 2 lose him either.
    Cheeky*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If ur going out with some1 u should know who ur going out with before you agree to go out with them. If you don't approve of there lifestyle then u shouldn't be involved in there lifestyle, u should like em for what they r, drugs or no drugs.
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