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Love triangle (serious)

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey im near enuf 17 and im goin out wid this girl, but i like this other girl who is 14!. Im in yr 12 at school and shes in yr 9, and i like her more than my girl friend but im worried about how people would react to us if we got together, i dont hav ne thin sinister planned i really like her i was wonderin if ne ones go tne advice they cud give me on wot to do next. Thanx in advance
Ben

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why not just type in normal ENGLISH?? It'll take less time for others to read, and you'll get more people replying because they aren't so mad at the txt language you've used..
    Remember that in future, okay? <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    anyway, don't kidd your gf, if you like the other girl more go out with with her. The age gap isn't particulaly big between yrs 9-12, but if your friends don't like it then you'll have lost 2 girls.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi ben.
    there is only 3 years(maybe less)between you and this girl and you must know other people around you have have age gap relationships - it seems like a big deal now but trust me when you get together people just see you as a couple they don't think about what year you are in! ( trust me i have been there and i have friends who are together with age gaps) so if you don't have a problem with it what does it matter if other people do!
    but with regards to your current girlfriend- don't just drop her now you like this other girl, let her down gently there's no need to make this situation worse!
    <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    you have to accept that some days your the pidgeon and some days your the statue[*]null
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Age is not important in most relationships, it really depends on the people. My BF is 23 6 years my senior, I have been out with a guy 10 years older than me but that didn't work out but that wasn't cause of the age difference.
    If you don’t love someone you shouldn't be with them, it is not fair on your GF so just let her down gently.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Heya, I'm 15, and know what you're talking about.. i have a guy mate in yr 12, and I once asked him if he'd ever go out with a year 10, he said yeah, but then i said how about a year 9 and he said NO WAY. <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    So, I guess this is my opinion too...way too many people would have something to say about it.... I mean, just think about it...she'll be doing her SAT's and u'll be doing ur A Levels.....ummm yeah.
    So, take my advice and leave ur "little friend" where she belongs ....with all her year 9 mates.....
    Beth xxx <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What kind of relationsjip are you after sordid sex witha vunerable underage confused teenager? i think msny poeple might find this as taking advantage at your age you cnat honestly say that at some point sex wont come in to the eqaution maybe it would be diffrent if she was 16 and you 19 0r 20 but the fact thats shes not legal yet could be kinda worrieyng to friends and parents
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if u really like this little girl in yr 9 u wouldnt be bothered about what other people think! am i right?????

    as with ur gf, u shouldnt b with her anymore she deserves much better! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Do whatever feels right to you. Decide soon though as otherwise it will be unfair on your current girlfriend. These situations are difficult I know! Good luck! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    (cant spell!)

    [ 01-04-2002: Message edited by: Fairy ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if you like someone else more why are you still with your girlfreind it doesnt seem very fair on her, if thats the case , like ickle_muppet said she deserves better
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry i sound mean , im just in a mood ignore the harsheness but i still stand by the point i made
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This aint a love triangle, more like a love V, it would be a love triangle if ur g/f fancied the 14yr old aswell.....

    hmmmmm back to the point

    yah man, 17 - 14 makes it worse cause ur over the age of concent and she aint, so ur probably gonna look like adirt old man, or worse, be branded a peodophile for the rest of you time at school

    but if you thinks its worth it gettin ur rocks off with a 14yrold then go ahead..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How about go out with neither?
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