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Am I hurting myself?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Am I hurting myself? I have be with the same guy off and on for about 3 years now, and I love him so much and I know he loves me. The problem is always the same, he dosn't realize that his actions not only effect him but others too. I don't know what hurts worst being with him, or without him. I belive that some day he will grow up and stop acting like a selfish child. So what I'm asking is should I shut up and stop acting like a stupid girl, or am I juust hurting my self hoding on to something thats never gonna change? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You love him, so u do want things to work out don't you? If yes, then talk to him, 3 years is a long time to have been carrying on as if nothing's wrong. Tell him that you're unhappy with how he's acting, and if he loves you im sure he'll be happy to try and sort it out for you <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You obviously do love him but you can't ask people to change. You'll either decide you can't stand it anymore and move on, or you'll just accept him as he is, very sweet but a bit thoughtless. I'm sure he doesn't do it in a vindictive way (true?) so I'm sure he loves you too and is probably as confused about you as you are about him. No doubt you've got something special so give it a go, but put yourself first. Hope that hasn't confused you more? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Lots of love and luck xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know I can't change him, I guess I'm hoping that he will grow up.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    some men never grow up!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe u need to decide whether u deserve better than this, honey. It might be hard for u to decide this, becoz u luv him so much, but u don't deserve to be gettin hurt, and if it's upsetting u, then u need to think of wot's best for u. After 3 yrs it's hard to make a gud judgement and alot harder to walk away, i know, but maybe u shud do sum gud thinking about it, and try takin a step bak and thinkin whether ur relationship is worth ur heartache. U will get over it, even if it seems like it wud be hard now. I promise u. Don't think being without this guy will be impossible, coz it's not.
    omg, that was really long, sorry if that's not helped at all.
    Lots of luv xxx
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