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Boyfriends gone AWOL
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Thought I'd post this just to get things off my chest. Any advice would be welcome.
Last spoke to my boyfriend via text yesterday lunchtime 12pm we agreed to go bowling that evening. I phoned him later on in the afternoon about 2.30 and his mobile was switched off and no one was answering at home.
It got to about 7pm and I still hadn't heard anything from him. This isn't like my boyfriend at all. I decide to pop round to his flat to see if he's there. No he wasnt I rang a couple of his mates about 9ish because I still hadn't heard from him. They have also been trying to get hold of him but had no joy. It got to about 11pm and Im climbing up the walls with worry all these bad thoughts running through my head.
I decided that there was nothing I could do so I text him again telling him I was really worried and could he get in contact with me. about half an hour later I got a report to say he'd got my text message so I rang his number straight away. It rang but he didnt answer I tried again and he had switched the phone off.
We haven't had a row and when I spoke to him in the morning he was fine. I dont think its another woman because he wouldn't do that. He was cheated on by his (ex)wife and so knows exactly how it feels to be on the receiving end.
I dont no wether to be worried or angry!
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Last spoke to my boyfriend via text yesterday lunchtime 12pm we agreed to go bowling that evening. I phoned him later on in the afternoon about 2.30 and his mobile was switched off and no one was answering at home.
It got to about 7pm and I still hadn't heard anything from him. This isn't like my boyfriend at all. I decide to pop round to his flat to see if he's there. No he wasnt I rang a couple of his mates about 9ish because I still hadn't heard from him. They have also been trying to get hold of him but had no joy. It got to about 11pm and Im climbing up the walls with worry all these bad thoughts running through my head.
I decided that there was nothing I could do so I text him again telling him I was really worried and could he get in contact with me. about half an hour later I got a report to say he'd got my text message so I rang his number straight away. It rang but he didnt answer I tried again and he had switched the phone off.
We haven't had a row and when I spoke to him in the morning he was fine. I dont think its another woman because he wouldn't do that. He was cheated on by his (ex)wife and so knows exactly how it feels to be on the receiving end.
I dont no wether to be worried or angry!
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Obviously, keep on trying. If you still can't reach him in a few days (and his friends have had no joy either) maybe you should phone the police? It does sound very odd, but there's probably a good explanation for it.
Did you actually speak to him yesterday morning, or just text him?
I hope everything turns out ok
Well he finaly rang me earlier. His Cousin was in town and so he went on the piss all day. He said he didnt ring me because his cousin nicked his phone and wouldnt give it back to him. He doesnt know my number of by heart so he couldnt ring. How lame is that. We are yet to have it out because he's still pissed and I refused to talk to him in that state. He has got some serious groveling to do!!!
I don't have a problem with the fact he was out on the piss with his cousin its just that he didnt let me know and I was worried sick!!
Why is it men dont seem to think about the consequences of their actions.
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No you must have me confused with someone else I only visit thesite
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However...perhaps he was worried about your reaction if he had been straight with you. I know from the same experiences that some men will agree to do stuff they don't really want to do just to keep their girlfriends happy but then they'll back out and they know their girlfriend will freak when they tell them they don't want to do whatever it is they've made a date for.
Perhaps you should stop relying so much on your boyfriend being there to do stuff with..take some time and go out and do what you want to do with other people who want to do it with you...your other friends. At the moment it sounds like you are worried about who your boyfriend is with or what he's up to or you wouldn't have mentioned it...that's only natural though, specially if his excuse is as weak as the ones he gave you.
The worst thing you can do is call his friends, go round his house etc. he probably needs and wants his freedom and you should value yours a bit more.
I know you were worried but it's easy to wind yourself up and start some kind of mis-trust and anger between you.
Some men don't think like some women. It probably never occured to him you'd be worried because he possibly expected you to have a life of your own as well as the one you have together.
xx deeby doo xx