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High Sex Drive? Low Sex Drive?
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Been with my gf nearly 2 months now, and we just had a major conversation about our relationship for about 2 hours over the phone. Within this space of time, she has in a way "cheated on me" but not as such. She has basically gone behind my back and texted other people and kept secrets from me (Which is the first step to cheating)
Anyway, within the 2 hour conversation, the sex convo popped up. We started talking about it, and she knows very well that my sex drive is very high ( and i masturbate upto 4 times a day ).
I asked her if her if she had a prob with having sex with me as often as we do, and she said yes. Mainly the reason for her saying yes, is that her sex drive is very low, and she doesnt like having sex when i get to intense
But isn't that one of the passions of having sex? or am i wrong?
My sex drive is very high, and she admitted she thinks im using her for sex (which im not, i really do love her) and i even said to prove i love you that much, i could go without it for a whole year!
Is there any way of lowering my sex drive? or infact making hers higher? The reason i ask is because not many relationships seem to work out with 2 partners having opposite sex drive, and we need to meet in the middle at some point.
I can see this relationship slowly fade away if we cant agree on terms to have sex when she want it or when i want it.
Opinions please. Thanks, Brad
Anyway, within the 2 hour conversation, the sex convo popped up. We started talking about it, and she knows very well that my sex drive is very high ( and i masturbate upto 4 times a day ).
I asked her if her if she had a prob with having sex with me as often as we do, and she said yes. Mainly the reason for her saying yes, is that her sex drive is very low, and she doesnt like having sex when i get to intense
But isn't that one of the passions of having sex? or am i wrong?
My sex drive is very high, and she admitted she thinks im using her for sex (which im not, i really do love her) and i even said to prove i love you that much, i could go without it for a whole year!
Is there any way of lowering my sex drive? or infact making hers higher? The reason i ask is because not many relationships seem to work out with 2 partners having opposite sex drive, and we need to meet in the middle at some point.
I can see this relationship slowly fade away if we cant agree on terms to have sex when she want it or when i want it.
Opinions please. Thanks, Brad
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Youre the blowjob guy too arent you.
Your poor girlfriend.
And to make her higher, well don't know, maybe more foreplay or something...
I masturbate upto 4 or 5 times a day as i said, still doesn't work.
man your a fucking loser....she shouldnt be fucking thinking about it anymore. its not that easy to forget. to be honest she best without you. your the type of fella that gives decent fellas a bad name. what age are you 13. she went through a fucking traumatic experience, getting over your fucking urges. You need to grow up big time
*coughbullshitcough* why the fuck would you look like a dick. I'm not starting anything but you need to grow up
Yeah, you have my acquiesence on that. You're (author) really coming forth as a genuine dick.
Not exactly uberserious yet then.
Texting is not cheating or a step to cheating. Keeping secrets is not really directly related to cheating either, it just shows some lack of trust.
Ok.
For some, maybe it is. For others, maybe not.
Well, you *say* that, and yet..
If you really felt that you could go without, then this would all be immaterial.
My opinion is that your "relationship" to you is just about the sex. Which means that I can see why she would be largely uninterested in it.
But i dont think you see the other things and what we say and do together, other than read 1 post on this board so i dont think u can understand. Infact theres not really any point in posting here, im just going to have to go with my own decisions because i obviously cant ask other members things on here, all i get is abuse. Brad
dont be a fag. you just need to post more precise. we dont know what the goings on in your life. you need to word it more precise to be honest. no point in taking a hissy fit and pissing off
people post shitloads exaplainign back stories and what not so just relax and take the time to make a more indept post...we can help. im sure alot of people have went through other people prblems on this board in the past so they can help
If you focus on the other positive aspects of your relationship you wont miss it that much.
However, if she actually lied about it, then that's rather twisted, I gotta say. And if you don't trust her enough to text other people, then you seem to have serious problems in your relationship which has nothing to do with your sex drives. Maybe the sex problems are a result of other things, who knows. But yeah, you should give us more information so we can help properly.
Also, remember that you're still in a relatively new situation (at least, at 2 months for me a relationship still feels new). It's gonna take some adapting and comproming in all aspects to be with each other long-term.
your a dickhead, you dont deserve to have a flipping knob let alone a girlfriend
Don't be fag? What's wrong with being a fag???