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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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I need more female friends down here. I only have two, and when they are busy there is no one else to hang about with. There arent any social groups to go to around here, or so it seems. My job didnt work out, so the meeting people there thing is out the question.

Im just feeling a bit down about it all, im fed up of male company all the time (i live with my fiancee and 3 flatmates)

Its doing my head in. Argh.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im feeling the exact same way.. although the other way round! every single friend i have on the island at the moment is female, and i have like noo contact with boys at all.. except for saturday nights, but then im too drunk to notice much lol

    i can relate to you as well about living with boys all the time :P last year at uni i was put into halls with 5 boys (me the only girl). got a bit repetitive and isolating at times, when theyre all watching footie or doing guy stuff (ie. porn in one of their rooms)

    maybe join a few clubs? join a club that you know will have mostly girls going to and you can meet some people that way! if you go to the gym, you could even meet someone as well!! if youre doing the same activity, then just say hello and get things started from there!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    haha yeah, they arent to bad, im just dying for female company. And it sucks when if i want to escape from them all, that i cant

    there is a womens only gym around the corner from me, but i cant afford to pay the yearly or even the monthy subscription cos im completely broke atm.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I used to think i needed more friends but what i needed was a hobby for myself... i found one ..working out.. but there is no subsutition for friendship i will admit. but you should always be able to keeo yourself happy
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've had this same problem in the past, good female friends are extremely hard to find and often quite hard to keep (or maybe that's just me...). It can get extremely lonely, and I'm once again finding that at the moment with my best female friend being on the other side of the world for the forseeable future. The female friends I do have are generally from school or people I've met through work... or through male friends. It's a lot easier to make and keep male friends I find, but then I know other women who think the opposite is true...

    I'm not really sure what to suggest other than a new hobby, or hanging out in new places where people with similar musical taste (or whatever) go. Maybe try and get to know some girlfriends or female friends of your existing, male mates and flatmates. Then you've got some common ground, and they may well be into similar things.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I definatly feel your pain. I have one female friend. But she has a husband and a baby so the best I get is to talk to her on the phone every once in a while. Its beyond depressing. As Blair said, a hobby is nice. It will keep you busy, distract you. Depending on the hobby you could meet new people. Mine don't. Not having friends of the same sex (or any at all) can be a huge downer. Just hope you don't start planning a wedding soon till the only thing in your mind is, I cannot have one, might as well get my mom and grandma in the wedding party cuz i have no friends and thats the best i'll ever get... Yes, no friends don't make good weddings... anyways, yes, chin up girly :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Out of my 2 female friends down here, one of them has twins (1 yr olds) so we hardly ever meet up, i suggest and she always seems to be busy etc. It was even like that before the twins came, but then i was living up north anyway so.

    Ta for the comments people, ive taken em all on.

    Also ive never been one to make friends easily, people tend to think im stuck up because when i first meet them i hardly say anything, but thats because im shy. Thats the reason my job didnt work out as well, becuase people thought i was 'difficult'.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im feeling the same at the moment, not just about female friends, but i need more friends in general.

    I have good friends but since leaving uni they are scattered all over the UK

    I just want people to "hang out" with

    But im not that good at making friends either, im really quiet to begin with too. And not everyone will give me enough time to come out of my shell

    Not really helping you, but just thought i'd sigh along with you :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I feel the same ish. All of my mates are blokes and although I seem to get on better with them I'd like a few girly ones. :(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I find it much easier to make new girl friends than new guy friends. I get on well with a few guys at work, but we only ever hang out as a group e.g. everyone from work going to the pub. Never do anything one on one. Whereas, say, asking a girl to go to the pictures or go shopping with me seems much more natural. Even though it's not a date date.
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