If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
Hmm...not my type...
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
So, my girlfriend and I were talking about things, and I told her how she was like, exactly my type. (Which she is) and then she told me that "I wasn't her type at all, and if she saw me on the street, she wouldn't go after me at all." but she still loved me tons... and it doesn't mean anything to her that I'm not...
How would you take this? I mean, is she saying that she isn't really attracted to me? Or just I'm not her type as in style, features, etc?
How would you take this? I mean, is she saying that she isn't really attracted to me? Or just I'm not her type as in style, features, etc?
0
Comments
I'd try not to read a lot into it really. Maybe have a word with her if you still need reassurance.
Most of the blokes I've been seeing/going out with, I wouldn't necessarily fancy if I passed them in the street, but because they started off as friends or colleagues at work I got to know their personality first. It doesn't mean she doesn't fancy you.
I had the same with my ex of 3 years. He said I was his perfect girl and he loved everything about my looks. He really wasn't my type though. If I didn't get to know him, I wouldn't have even glanced at him. I didn't tell him this of course
To her, a type could mean anything. Don't look too much into is. As others have said, its a sign she is comfortable with you.
I wouldn't read too much into it. She's with you after all and said she loved you.
I guess it just bugs me, so...I don't know. It's not super important, but is certainly still there... And I'm an insecur-ish guy on the inside as it is. (whether they know it or not!)
But I dunno... :impissed:
you make him sound sooooooo attractive!
Basically, I think it means that you're not like her ex-boyfriends, but hey, guess who's going out with her *now*?
Exactly.
I'm sure most people have been out with people who aren't our ideal man or woman, or even the type of person we check out in the street or would gravitate toward in a bar or whatever. My ex was the antithesis of my "type" (if I can really even be said to have one anymore) when we initially met because he wasn't fat/skinny/beefy/freckly/ginger/blonde/whatever enough for things to click immediately in my mind. But he became the most gorgeous thing in the world to me when I got to know him and we had a relationship.
Don't sweat small stuff like this, she isn't saying she doesn't find you physically appealing and attractive... take it as a complimentary thing, that despite you not ticking all the physical boxes you've got something special that she loves
Apparently I just don't match her clothing type style, and I'm not aggressive. She seems to like aggressive men once and awhile. :chin:
Now, I don't care about the clothing, whatever.
The reason I'm not aggressive is that I just I don't like being not sure of whether or not it will be taken well... Would it be awkward for me to put that fear aside now that she has explained it, or should I just leave it be and figure it's too cheesy to do now basically? :chin:
It will piss you off, but you dont wanna fight about it :chin:
I told her that, "I'm just not gonna worry about it, maybe it's a good thing, considering your other boyfriend's are ex's now.
So, all is well I suppose. Still worries me in the back of my mind, but not as much as before anyways, since I know it's a style thing instead of something else.
Thanks all! :yippe: