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Meeting her for the first time
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I hope some of the regulars remember my earlier posts, well the time has come and I'm meeting the most perfect girl the world next Saturday.
We've talked a little, upto half an hour at times, and well this will be the first proper planned meet.
What I was wondering was...what sort of things is it ok to talk about and what to avoid? I'm guessing politics and the war are a no go this early on.
We've talked a little, upto half an hour at times, and well this will be the first proper planned meet.
What I was wondering was...what sort of things is it ok to talk about and what to avoid? I'm guessing politics and the war are a no go this early on.
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are you being serious?
I think you're fine though mate, you just need to relax. If you act all tense and nervous then you're more likely to get awkward silences. Just be interested in her and don't start on about any exes or the future or anything too deep.
The more you over think it the more you will panic about what to say so the key is to just relax about it all conversation will sort itself out.
Thsi is true. When I met someone off the internet (as a friend; nothing more) it just came naturally and in the end it was alright.
But yeah, I'm never nervous around her, just excited
I've met some mates offline too. Only one person was really difficult to make converstation with
It really depends on the person
Just relax, take it easy, awkward moments are ok, talk about your interests, ask about her etc etc.
i'm so happy for you, you'll be fine just relax, the conversation will just come naturally.
I don't know how you cope with yourself Miss Lipsy .
But then I'm wierd.
I think a lot of people have basically said to act natural and not plan things, I think I'm going to stop asking for advice about this and just be myself. That way she gets to know me, and not the way I'd like to appear, if that makes sense.
I cant wait for next Saturday now.
I find it very easy to talk to random new people though. I just let the conversation flow. I never plan what I'm going to say.
If you have spoken to her lots on the phone then it shouldn't be any different when you meet her for the first time. Just act like you do on the phone.
So did I everyone from where I live does... but come to find out he absoulted hated it and I have since cut down considerable
and I was like : "Ah shit! oops I mean sorry, um yea..."
He knew it was because I was nervous :S
seriously? When I met two people off the internet a few weeks ago, we just asked each other questions about random stuff and talking about other people.
I actually go out of my way to avoid people who call themselves "wierd" or "different" or "unique" as in my experience they're normally just average and boring and quite possibly emo.
The most interesting people hang themselves off hooks, meditate, pierce their genitals, tie themselves to trees, write beautiful music, take brilliant photographs and share their beds with their pets. So they'll just sit there and talk about fire-walking or nudist beaches or independent cinema as if they've just popped to town to get a loaf of bread... Unique people who don't know they're unique.