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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
HELP ME PLEASE

Im in love with a lad, but all he does is mess me about.
He asks me to meet him and then he dont turn up....ok he always has a gr8 excuse, and of course, i fall for it, cuz hes just soooo fit!!!
But theres nothin actually happenein between us, just when i bump into him we talk and kiss...
No relationship or nethin.
Typin this now i feel like i know what i should do, i just cant cuz ill miss him soo much and ill always wonder about what cuda been...
Ill stop now cuz i sound stupid!
Id be most grateful of any help anyone could give me!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Like you say, you know what you should do. And sure it may be hard, but in the long run it's the best thing. If this guy is giving you constant excuses he obviously doesn't value you in the way that's going to lead to a happy relationship. You can still be friends, just don't let him use you like this.

    And of course it's possible that by backing off you'll make him realise he doesn't want to lose you, and then things could have a happy ending after all.....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey sweet.

    there are two things you can do, and neither is going to be very easy on you sweet.

    the first thing you can do is walk away. i think you know that this might be the right thing to do. if he's messing with your head and clearly he is, then you need to get away from him. he's using you sweet. and you have to admit that to yourself.

    and once you've had some time away from him, you will be strong enough to resist him. you have too, otherwise you are always going to be his plaything. as fit as he is, you know you can't go on feeling like this without ever getting what you want.

    the second thing is that there is a slight chance he doesn't know what you want. you need to tell him that you are ready to do more than talk and kiss. this way.. at least you know where he stands and what he really feels for you. if he says he's not ready, then let him go. if he says he is.. well then.. you got what you wanted. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    but finding the strength to have this talk with him is always a hard thing.

    the bottom line here sweet is to stop feeling like you are in limbo. do either of these two things so that at least you can feel in control of your feelings again.

    good luck.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    you need to tell him that you are ready to do more than talk and kiss.

    everything Calvin said <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    by the quote above I assume you mean she should tell him she wants a relationship?

    (soz for talking over ur head sweet!)

    I think he's in a situation any guy (okay, most) dreams of - getting the "good stuff" without any commitment. So tell him you don't think casual kissing etc. is what you want to do; you want to be a couple, or at least "seeing each other" for as long as it lasts.

    good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    This is the first day of the rest of your life.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    THANKYOU!
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