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Finishing uni and feeling lost
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Is there anyone else here, who when they finished uni felt so lost and wierd?
I feel like the 3 years went by so fast and im not really ready to leave education. Im not ready to go into the world of work.
Im considering doing a postgraduate course so that i can stay on for an extra year, but im worried about how i can afford it, and i also dont know if its too late now to get in for this september.
Overall, im just really sad about leaving. My final year has been the best year of my life so far, i enjoyed it so much and just never wanted it to end :crying:. Ive returned home and i dont even feel like i belong here any more.
Feel at a loose end. Someone give me some direction!
I feel like the 3 years went by so fast and im not really ready to leave education. Im not ready to go into the world of work.
Im considering doing a postgraduate course so that i can stay on for an extra year, but im worried about how i can afford it, and i also dont know if its too late now to get in for this september.
Overall, im just really sad about leaving. My final year has been the best year of my life so far, i enjoyed it so much and just never wanted it to end :crying:. Ive returned home and i dont even feel like i belong here any more.
Feel at a loose end. Someone give me some direction!
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I'm feeling exactly the same. I've had such an amazing time this last year especially and really don't feel ready to leave yet. It's so sad thinking that many of the great people i've met over the last 3 years I may never see again :crying:. I also considered doing a masters but then realised that the only reason that I want to do it is to prolong my time of being a student - none of the jobs i want to do ask for a masters, so i've realised that it will probably be a waste of money. I'm going travelling this sumemr though so it's giving me something to look forward to.
I'm guessing that this feeling is mainly because we've just finished - i've spoken to friends who graduated last year and they said that once you start working, you kind of forget about missing uni and you make new friends, but at the moment i don't feel convinced. I want to stay a student forever!!!
But I am scared that after university I will end up back doing bar work for the rest of my life.
I can do it so long as i can have a part time job alongside it, and so long as some help is available
I feel like i want to further widen my knowledge in the subject, as well as stay on at uni for that bit longer as i really didnt want it to end!
So the reason isnt just because i dont want to go into the real world, i just want to be a student and learn more and carry on the fun that ive had so far
i wanted to cry every day for weeks when i left uni and started my first 'proper' job. i soon came round, though, and now i'm all about the working lifestyle.
it was difficult giving up my 2 hours a week schedule and daily dose of trisha though!
i didnt want to admit to the crying because i thought it was a bit sad of me, but i feel exactly like that, every time i think about what ive left, i get all teary and have to really try hard to not cry!
I just cant adjust to the move back in with parents. I miss staying up till 4am with my housemates watching quizmania and other shite, and just messing around.
I miss going out to get drunk and being able to stumble home whenever i like.
None of that is possible back here, even if i was to move out of home.
I just want to be back at uni, with the same housemates, and with all my friends still there!
Its not that i dont want to grow up, i can handle being an adult and having a job etc, but i want the living arrangements back, and i want to be working for something. I want to be learning more.
Pah.
well theres a quiz thing thats on all the time, whether its called quizmania or not i dont know!
if you got a job, could you look at renting a room in a shared house? if you live with youngsters, you can have that silly uni feel for a bit longer.
whatever happens, it's the end of an era, and that's always a bit weird. you get that sudden thunderbolt that it's all change, and nothing will be the same again. which it won't. but different doesn't necessarily = bad. it just takes a bit of getting used to.
i dont want to get used to it
Aargh i feel so depressed! i need a good slap
Up the buzz! :thumb:
I hate wigan its so poo and i have 1 remaining friend there. Everything that i love and that i am is in huddersfield. I think i will feel vetter once i am able to start applying for jobs but at the moment i doubt very uch that i have passed my degree so applying for jobs is a bit pointless.
Thats next tuesday anyway so i can start to sort myself out then.
As much as i love huddersfield its not so much me wanting to stay here as me not wanting to go to wigan.
I have applied for a job teaching environmental fieldwork on the isle of wight that i really want but other than that i cant find anything that i want to do that doesnt require grades first or really good predicted grades.
Im still thinking about having a fun year before i settle downn and get a serious job, seing if i can get a job in a hotel abroad or something like that. I really need to make my mind up soon.
I guess we will see what tuesday brings...
have you thought about temp work? as well as giving you something to do and a bit of extra dosh, prospective employers are always a little bit impressed if you are already working when you apply for jobs.
do you think that it would look better if i was temping in an office or something to employers? i have only stayed on as i can have basically as many hours as i want but id be quite prepered to leave if something else would look better
Im used to living in a shared uni house, with people i love spending time with, im used to people coming and going all day, with social lives. Im used to being invited out places
At uni it was in the middle of the city, i could just text my mates and they would meet me wherever because they all lived within walking distance.
Back here, my friends all have full time jobs and go to the pub every sunday evening, thats it. I just cant adjust to this at all.
Living in this house is boring beyond belief, theres no housemates to have pointless banter with, theres nobody to be bored with me. I even miss lectures.
I miss the silly little student house with an ant infestation! I didnt even miss family when at uni, so long as i came home to visit every few months.
Im trying to keep myself busy by sorting out job applications and stuff like that, but this is really getting me down. I dont want to go into a job that will last longer than till next term time. I want to work the summer then look forward to going back in september where it all carries on again.
I dont see why i should have to give up something i love doing, which is being a student. I felt like i belong, i enjoyed every day. Yet the more i want to stay on as a post-grad, the more i realise how much i cant afford to do it. I would need about £8000 to cover tuition and living costs.
Why am i finding this so hard? I feel so depressed.
This way im kind of weaning myself away from Uni slowly, as its impossible for me to do any post-graduate study
So i'll still live in a lively place with fun people, i just will be having a job instead of studying
Yay
thanks for all feedback, i know ive been/am being depressing lately!
you'll be able to stalk me still. but i'm moving house so .
the reason i decided i want to move back up :flirt:
knew it.