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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
I hate being alive...
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  • littlemissylittlemissy knit chick Posts: 9,972
    Lifeless wrote:
    I hate being alive...

    Why? What makes you feel like that? Is there something in your life that sparks this feeling off?

    A single post like that isn't going to help me give you advice :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, you know how people make connections with other people and form relationships and stuff? It seems that I can't do that.

    I don't know. It's really weird. It's like I'm an alien or something. I don't seem to have anything in common with anyone. It just makes everything that little bit harder.

    Or maybe it's the fact that women throw themselves at guys who act like 12 year old prepubescent twats. :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:
  • littlemissylittlemissy knit chick Posts: 9,972
    Lifeless wrote:
    Well, you know how people make connections with other people and form relationships and stuff? It seems that I can't do that.

    I don't know. It's really weird. It's like I'm an alien or something. I don't seem to have anything in common with anyone. It just makes everything that little bit harder.

    Maybe you aren't meeting the right sort of people. Like, think about what sort of people you wish to meet and then seek them out. You *must* have something in common with at least one of the 6 billion people on earth! I do know and appreciate that it is difficult, but unfortunately, that's the way it goes. Try and be pro-active about life :)
    Or maybe it's the fact that women throw themselves at guys who act like 12 year old prepubescent twats. :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:

    Then you are certainly going after the wrong sort of women.

    Don't go looking for a girlfriend, it doesn't work like that. However, if you start meeting people you have things in common with, as I already suggested, tnen you may find someone you like / who appreciates you more than these sorts of women.

    I know my advice probably sounds a little harsh but the best way to sort things out is to get yourself out of your rut and look on the positive side of things. Try and meet new people and get yourself sorted that way :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmm, I dunno. I do kind of enjoy brooding. Besides, I've gone after all kinds of women and they all seem to find immaturity really attractive.

    I'm just really not impressed with life at all.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok, well I'm not sure if this is the right thing to say, but why dont you put women to oneside for a bit, and find something in this world that you can enjoy.

    There must be atleast a few things you'd like. I dont know, erm..weightlifting, stamp collecting, photography, naturism, birdwatching, the list is endless.

    Think about your childhood, what did you always want to do/be when you grew up, and try to get a little closer to that.

    Finding a lady friend is not going to fix your problems, but it may just cause more heartache on both sides, because your problems might be a bit deeper than wanting a girlfriend.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How old are you?

    You'll find that a lot of girls of a certain age like immature twats, but usually people grow out of that as they get older.

    Your definitely going after the wrong girls by the sounds of things.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm 22.

    It's not even about getting a girlfriend anymore. It's about finding someone who actually gives a toss about me. :impissed:

    On the interest side I don't really enjoy anything anymore or at least the interest doesn't last very long. And the less said about my childhood the better.

    I just can't be bothered anymore...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lifeless wrote:
    I'm 22.

    It's not even about getting a girlfriend anymore. It's about finding someone who actually gives a toss about me. :impissed:

    On the interest side I don't really enjoy anything anymore or at least the interest doesn't last very long. And the less said about my childhood the better.

    I just can't be bothered anymore...
    You sound depressed. Have you been to see your GP?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, last October. Been on anti-depressants and had counseling ever since.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    do anti-depressants work for ANYONE? I don't think drugs are the way to go with mental issues...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    is it really so bad that you hate being alive, or is that just a figure of speech?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I really hate being alive. I'm not saying I want to kill myself but if I was given a choice I wouldn't of chose life.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    muse- wrote:
    do anti-depressants work for ANYONE? I don't think drugs are the way to go with mental issues...

    They work for me. A decade of therapy did nothing.
    And my sister, mother and grandmother.

    Each person is different though. You never know what will work and what won't until you try.
  • littlemissylittlemissy knit chick Posts: 9,972
    Lifeless wrote:
    I really hate being alive. I'm not saying I want to kill myself but if I was given a choice I wouldn't of chose life.

    I think you need to go back to your GP and/counsellor and discuss this with them.
    muse- wrote:
    do anti-depressants work for ANYONE? I don't think drugs are the way to go with mental issues...

    They worked for me :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey... uhm, I thought I'd just ask here if anyone knew how to go about getting a counsellor and what it is they actually do because I'm quite interested in seeing one.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lifeless wrote:
    Yeah, last October. Been on anti-depressants and had counseling ever since.
    I think you should go back to the GP you saw in October and explain the situation. You may need a different drug or a change in dose, or other treatment.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    but the drugs just mask it do they not? theyre not a cure?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    From what I've read, drugs are only slightly better than placebos in medical tests.

    BUT, placebos and therapy were almost as affective as drugs and therapy.

    Here's a link, it's only wikipedia, but I guess its a start
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antidepressant#Controversy
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    They worked for me in the beginning but they seem to have lost their effectiveness. The thing is I don't want to take stronger meds. It'll just make that much harder to come off them.

    There's a slight possibility I might be bi-polar but being health professionals they would of seen that, right?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    not neccessarily... i was speaking to someone with that, they may just get it mixed with normal depression
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    IWishIWas wrote:
    Hey... uhm, I thought I'd just ask here if anyone knew how to go about getting a counsellor and what it is they actually do because I'm quite interested in seeing one.

    Well, I spoke to my GP and he refered me to her for an assessment and things pretty much went from there. Basically, she talked with me about my problems but she didnt really offer any practical help.

    She (after about 5 sessions) then refered me to a psychologist. He (again) talked to me about my problems and stuff but didn't really offer anything practical.

    Only saw him about 3 times then he got me to go on this cognitive therapy course. Basically, it's a 4 week course that *tries* to teach you how to think positively and to challenge the assumptions you make.

    But my problem isn't really how I think about myself its more about how I relate with others and how they treat me. It's pretty hard to challenge your assumptions when they keep turning out to be true. :impissed:

    Sorry. Didn't mean to rant on. I was just following a train of thought...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lifeless wrote:
    They worked for me in the beginning but they seem to have lost their effectiveness. The thing is I don't want to take stronger meds. It'll just make that much harder to come off them.

    There's a slight possibility I might be bi-polar but being health professionals they would of seen that, right?

    I had that... I've been on AD's for 12 years, been in thearapy for 10 (minus the last 2 years) I've found that like most medications, your body grows immune to them. In my epxerience, and I'm not ashamed to share this, nor am I embaressed.

    Alot of people will think this to be absolute crap, as I have been told many times before on here. Told I'm a bullshiter.

    But anwyas, I've been getting various types of "help" for my depression and anxiety for over a decade. Since I was 8 years old to be factual. I've had years and years of therapy. I've had various doctors ranging from therapists/counclers to psychologist/psychictirsts/behavorilists and even your GP. After many sessions each and every one of them has told me that what I suffer is a purely physical disorder.

    Depression is not very well known, in what causes it and all that stuff. There are various theros, but since its nearly impossible to prove any of them, none can be exact, but after over half a dozen people telling me that its a chemical disorder, I do believe that it is true.

    I don't know what you experience, what your life has been like. I don't know if there are certian factors that make you feel the way you do. But in my experience, there is nothing.

    You can discuss what is wrong here, or you can discuss what is wrong with you therapist or GP. If there is anything wrong. If there is not, don't give up on the medications. It can take years to find one that works right. And after that, they can wear out quickly. I was on one that I became immune to after 2 years. But in my experience, they do help. Alot.

    Without them, I'm suicideal, I'm overaly emotional, I cry and bawl and scream from a paper cut, literally. With them, I'm normal.

    I'm not saying thats how it is for you, but don't give up on them. Talk with your GP, your therapist and find all the options. Maybe it is something emotionlly wrong that can be fixed... maybe it is an imbalance that will only be helped by medications. By the right ones. Which is a completly trial and error method.

    Most everybody on here (as I've said before, will say this is bullshit, I've alreay been harassed for this) But its there. Its that horrible not wanting to live can't even get out of bed feeling, a feeling you can't even describe as its so bad... and sometimes you just need to find what works. Just try. Try and fail, try and fail... try and learn. Try and find the right solution.

    Nothing has made me feel more shit than this website when it comes to depression. Like I'm nothing more than a faker and a failure. People here will make you feel like your nothing, like your lying and like everythign anybody has told you is shit. But its not. From experience... theres things that work... because sometimes things can't be explained from tests they have available and therapy... theres thererois and I believe those therois are right. So fuck the people who tell you that you what your suffering from is bullshit. They know absoutly nothing. Nothing! They don't know. They havn't had years of experience to tell them. They're nothing but ignorant assholes.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my_name wrote:
    Nothing has made me feel more shit than this website when it comes to depression. Like I'm nothing more than a faker and a failure. People here will make you feel like your nothing, like your lying and like everythign anybody has told you is shit.
    :(:(
    Im so sorry thats been your experience manda. You dont deserve that at all :(:(

    :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Man, I don't know what the hell is going on but I haven't felt this bad for ages. The really weird thing is I actually felt pretty good this afternoon. :banghead:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im glad youre having good episodes too. Does that make the bad times easier, or does it make it feel worse when you "come down"?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's just really frustrating. I'm still feeling a bit down this morning though.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it does sound frustrating. Do you think theres anything in particular that sets you off, or is there a particular time of the day that you find hard?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's just really hard being on my own all the time. The problem is I'm far too nervous & miserable to do anything about it. Too many bad experiences...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it can be a bit of a vicious circle when its like that cant it. you feel crap so you dont feel up to doing anything, which in turn makes you feel even more crap.
    do you want to say anything about the bad experiences?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just a load of crap at school. Everything I did got ridiculed :impissed:. And my "friends" eventually ditched me because they got caught up in it sometimes. It made it impossible to socialise. It didn't end at school either...
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