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Masturbating while you have a BF/GF
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OKay so tell me if you had a boyfriend or girlfriend who wanted to or did Masturbate while the two of you were together how would you feel about that? Taking into consideration that you are having good sex
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I've always masterbated whther in a relationship or not...I wouldn't mind if my b/f did either. Maybe I'm just a particularly randy person? :hyper:
Sometimes, when I'm going out with a girl, I do like to save myself for her. But in general I find that unless I'm having sex every few days then I pretty much have to masturbate, or else I turn into some testerone charged idiot who can only think about sex.
I dont see why one would be bothered by the fact.
Some relationships there is no option if thats all theyre gonna get.
Up to the couple I guess.
Good point. But my boyfriend and I are going to be apart for two months and we were talking about it... since I have never done it and he has we were trying to decide if we should while we were apart
Masturbation happens.
To be honest it is odd. But he hates the idea of me doing it. Which since I never have doens't really bother me so much but I can't help but think if I 'can't' then why can you. Childish as it is. Of course I don't care since I know it can't compare to the real thing but none the less it seems he does
Are you saying that you have a good sex life but your bf has asked you not to masturbate?
I dont see the problem, you either say no worries honey and not masturbate, or you say oi you cheeky sod, its up to me, and carry on wanking!
Are you saying he still masturbates, or has he given it up too?
Frogive me for not being clear. My boyfriend and I have good sex and neither one of use maturbates. But I am moving away for the summer as is he and we will be apart for two months. Hence the issue of masturbating. Since I have never done it both before and after we got together i have no interst and he is very much oppsoed to the idea. But he has and sees nothing wrong with him masturbating if and or when he feels the urge. Because I know he will miss me and whatever I don't care really but i still feel as tho he shouldn't tell me not to if he will...
It is just that I don't every ahve the urge to masturbate since i never have but I don't feel as tho he should i can't
Again I didn't mean to confuse you I was trying to express that it is unfair that he can masturbate if and or when he likes while he stricly forbids me to do so. I;m not going to suffer any since I don't masturbate but i don't think he should if i'am not allowed
Theres nothing wrong with it. I thought everyone did it actually. Well at least most people.
has he given you any reason why he thinks you shouldnt. Bit strange too considering he knows you dont anyway.
Bit of a weird request if youre not one for masturbating anyway though. Maybe he just likes to feel the power?
Depends though. you shouldnt have to hide stuff, but if hes being unreasonable
Id be tempted to ask him how he`d feel if you requested the same from him.
Tbh though i fail to see that much of a problem since you dont masturbate anyway. If you were a three fiddles a day kinda girl, then yer- big problem.
of course he masturbates, he's a man, even with a good sex life a guy is still likely to masturbate. there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, and I possitively encourage it.
Do it in front of his face.
Then he'll love it.
Unless he's gay :chin:
^ this :yes: mutual masturbation is always fun, it will only enhance your sex life if you both know yourselves intimately
Masturbation is a completely personal thing - therefore imho, it should have nothing to do with your boyfriend whether you choose to engage in it or not. Some people like to incorporate masturbation into their sexual relationship together - but again, that is their choice and they have probably considered the fact that it may affect their relationship. Masturbation is something either you choose to do, or choose not to do, not something other people dictate to you that you should or shouldn't do.
In this situation it is really difficult to judge whether your boyfriend is justified at all in his conclusion that you shouldn't masturbate without really knowing why/how he has come to that conclusion. Perhaps talking through those reasons issues/with him will help you to come to a happier place where you both feel more comfortable about what you have agreed before you depart.
I hope everything works out for the best
nothing wrong with masturbation while in a relationship with someone, can't help it if your really horny, and when they do it while your there like shyboy says then talk about a way to turn someone on