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Stupid but need to get it out!
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Hi
I am going to ask a question and I will probably regret it and get slagged totally for it but nevermind.
Does anyone else wonder why they are single? like all the time or is it just me? I mean I see other people who I think I'm nicer than but I obviously am not cos they aren't single like me.
I feel like I've never had a proper relationship yeh was with someone for a long time but looking back it was nothing, no action nothing. The other guys I've been with have been more a casual thing.
I'm just fed up I mean when my Mum and all my colleagues at work were my age they were either getting married or were married!
I'm worried I'll end up this old woman with noone only cats!!
Sorry!
I am going to ask a question and I will probably regret it and get slagged totally for it but nevermind.
Does anyone else wonder why they are single? like all the time or is it just me? I mean I see other people who I think I'm nicer than but I obviously am not cos they aren't single like me.
I feel like I've never had a proper relationship yeh was with someone for a long time but looking back it was nothing, no action nothing. The other guys I've been with have been more a casual thing.
I'm just fed up I mean when my Mum and all my colleagues at work were my age they were either getting married or were married!
I'm worried I'll end up this old woman with noone only cats!!
Sorry!
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Be happy
Last two weekends have been proper great, and I wouldn't have got away with any of it if I was still in a relationship.
Enjoy yourself, it'll happen when it's ready to happen :thumb:
has it good points I know, but in the last 12 months, I've lost so many friends from no fault of my own and I guess I'm just fed up and wish I coudl pull now and again!
I know what you mean. I'm not unhappy about being single, but I often wonder why I can't pull. I mean, I do know that I am bad socially, but I don't know where exactly I'm going wrong or how to amend it.
Saying it's normal to be single doesn't really help either. I don't need a boyfriend, but it'd be nice to have some action! And while I don't even get that, I do start thinking about the old woman+cats thing.
What really annoys me though is that complete wankers always seem to get the nice girls and decent people get left out.
*shrugs*
Just really really fed up with life the now!
Wish it'd change for the better for a change!
Ooh, I have a great theory on this. That 99% of people capable of being in relationships are already in relationships. And that most single people are single for a reason. I.e. they're emotionally unstable, are miserable sods, whatever. So although I'm in the 1% of people perfectly capable of being in a relationship but just happen to be single, most of the single girls I meet are not. Hence my continued, yet entirely undeserved, singleness.
(If that makes any sense? )
I feel you man.
I always explain it like this to me: They have been on the right spot in the right time.
I got female friends (90% of them) telling me I look good, and should finally get one... sheesh, like this is so easy for me. The fact that all are in a happy relationship and tell me I look fit does not help at all!
It's the typical, "I won't date you, but if you stay the way you are you will make a girl someday really really happy."
my sister who's 2 years older than me has a partner, and my sister who's 7(!) years younger than me has a b/f as well.
Feels like the whole world is dating except me.
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argh. way to ruin a day i am about to leave for uni.
I used to feel exactly the same.
"If I was thinner, I'd get someone, cause I'm an awesome chick, just too fat"
And every bitch around me was getting people and it was sad.
But I found someone who loves my curves and its great
Hehe, the funny thing is, is that he's a real thin boy, so we look a little weird hehe
Naw dude, just naw.
Being emotionally unstable or miserable doesn't make you uncapable of having a relationship. Are you honestly saying that everyone in a relationship is balanced and happy? Have you read these forums?
Naw!
You would :flirt:
When I'm single my thoughts tend to focus not on why I'm such a dateless pariah, but why everyone else isn't interesting enough for me to want to pursue them. I like to put a positive spin on things, haha.
I'm With Stupid has a point about a lot of women's attitudes to dating in younger years (as much as I hate to admit it...) and from older male friends of mine I know that the whole thing often turns on its head when they get a little older and (hopefully) more mature. It's definitely hard not to resent people in relationships, especially when they're an personality-free-zone and ugly to boot. But be happy for ugly, boring people who find love...
The old chestnut about things happening when you're not actively seeking them is absolutely true, as much as we all hate to admit it. I've had phases when I was younger when I thought I need a boyfriend and nothing happened, only for them all to crawl out of the woodwork as soon as I decided I'd had enough.
Okay, so I didn't mean everyone who's emotionally unstable or miserable doesn't deserve or isn't capable of being in a relationship. But personally I'd rather be with someone who's a little happier and more stable. Getting dumped every 2 weeks only to get back together again 3 days later. Constantly worrying I'm not giving her everything she needs, or that I've upset her without realising. I can do without all that.
haha same here!
i always think 'why are they putting up with that?!', but hey each to their own. :chin:
i spent a lot of time angsting over how i was with this guy when he could do so much better, then i realised that he didnt think there was anyone better and that in his eyes i was at the top of all the scales.
I have to back Infinite up on this one, both my and my bofriend
*sidetracks* (Urgh I cant call him that hes in his thirties!) are both slightly emotionally and mentally unstable due to one reason or another, but we get on really really well with each other. Its all due to compatability, I always waited for someone that I could get along with before I could be bothered to have relationships. Being in a relationship is not someones defining characteristic.
I know that when i was single i was unhappy and looking for someone, all the girls i met were just a bit weird to be honest. It was only when i stopped bothering about it that i met my girl friend. Even when we started seeing each other i didnt make a massive deal out of it and just got to know her.
So my theory is that if you stop looking for love you have a better chance of finding it. Just try and get to know people before going in for the whole relationship thing.
I personally don't really want a bf that much, but I wouldn't mind some flirting, etc. It's not because I'm an ugly mug that it's not happening, it's because I don't have the social ability to make it happen. Maybe I've missed a hundred "right place at the right time" moments in my life, who knows.
If I stopped looking around, I'd end up right where I have been. So I'm on the prowl now. Not looking for anyone to end up with, but just meeting strangers and practicing my social skills. Making the right place at the right time happen before I hit 30.
To be honest I'd describe myself as slightly emotionally and mentally unstable, too. I really meant the other person being so emotionally and mentally unstable that the relationship just won't work, no matter how hard you try. But I could've included other factors, too. E.g. people who don't really want a relationship, people who are too self obsessed etc.
Not being in a relationship doesn't really bother me. It's the entire lack of prospects. I think as long as you're going on first dates now and then you feel like you're doing okay, even if none of them work out. It's when you go months without finding anyone to even ask out that being single starts to suck.
I'm just fed up, why oh why do you always want things when you cant/dont have them (e.g. sex in my case!)
And yes, as soon as you can't have sex anymore your body suddenly decides it's the only thing in life that matters at all and it's all you can think about. Grr. Stupid body.
Tell me about it!
I may aswell turn into a Nun!
If I do ever get the chance again I might have forgotten what to do!!
I would say that's true to an extent.
Though I have gorgeous friends with [really] great personalities who have had maybe one short-term relationship (if that) at this point, and we're all coming up for 21/22. With this, we're getting back onto the whiny "attractive people never get approached" etc schtick, though I do think there's some truth in that. It's also partly that they're incredibly picky and probably fairly aloof, I guess.
But even the month's an illusion. For the first like 26 days they won't be ready for another relationship. So there's a window of about 2 days. And my timing's nowhere near that good. Lol.