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friend got engaged
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one of my best friends bf proposed to her today, after being together for 3 months.
she's 16 and he's 17....doesn't this just seem a bit rushed? I'm a bit concerned...
she's 16 and he's 17....doesn't this just seem a bit rushed? I'm a bit concerned...
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Are they engaged to show their commitment but planning on a long engagement or are they planning on getting married right away?
I don't even know if she'll tell her parents.
yes, personally i think it's silly after 3 months but they obviously feel it's right and if they're happy, let them be.
no need for you to be concerned.
So it does happen.
My ex has two friends who, both 19, were together for only 3 months before they announced in church one day that they wanted to get married, and so did so there and then. So far (after half a year) they're still very happy and have a lot of plans together.
So I guess it can just depend. Though to be fair, 19 is a little bit more mature than 16.
As in got married right there and then?! :shocking:
Totally agreed here
This I agree with. So Ballerina, why exactly are you concerned about this? For all you know it could be over within a few weeks or so.
I didn't think you could actually do that - spur of the moment thing. I know in Scotland you have to apply for a licence. I thought it was similar in England :chin:
EDIT: Didn't think you could do it spur of the moment thing. You need to apply for the wedding banns at least 3 Sundays before the ceremony for a license to be issued.
Yeah, similar things happened at my school. The most prominent "couple" split up not long after announcing it and having a party celebrating them getting engaged.
Totally agreed here. This is one of the reasons I refused to say yes to anyone who asks me if I'd marry them....
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'engaged' means a different thing these days. leave them to it.
Its all getting a bit pathetic. Granted, I have never known anybody who has done this faux engagement thing, but from reading on here. No point really. Its taking any realness out of it for people who still hold it to what it should be.
It wasn't.
I look back on it and cringe now, but I can sort of almost relate to the sentiment. It's probably puppy love at that stage, but nobody knows that at the time I suppose.
i agree with this, i got engaged when i was 17, we have split up now but i look back and regret it, i was too young but at the time you don't see that, just let them get on with it, it will all work out in the end
I also know someone who got married after a year together. I always thought it was too soon (never told him this though) and they're still happily married after just under 5 years...
to be fair you dont need to understand, its nothing to do with anyone but them and its not like they're rushing out to get married. if they're happy let them be.
If it doesnt work out then so what. If it does then great.
Its not really anything for you to worry about.
btw - aren't engagement rings supposed to have a diamond or some kind of stone?
I don't know what your worried about to be honest let them get on with it, it probabley won't last forever anyway, if it does then yeah great, but if not oh well kinda thing. To be honest just saying that you're engaged, especially at that age doesn't change anything.
I know looooads of people that have got engaged, some more serious than others. It's usually just a thing to say to 'prove' how serious they are. Leave them to it, unless it's looking like it's getting too deep.