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need help/advice about moving in/living with gf
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Okay, here's the situation. My girlfriend and I live about 500 miles apart. We met online and have visited each other several times. We had always thought one of us would eventually move in with the other because that would be about the only way we could be together all the time. Now that I'm 19 and am going to get my drivers liscense soon and will be finished with my schooling that will allow me to make a decent income I was going to move in with her. But a couple days ago she tells me that she doesn't feel ready for this serious of a relationship and that it feels too grown-up. I don't really know what to do because I don't know what other options there are. We both love each other very much and want to be with each other. I also know it's a very big commitment for everybody, me especially since I'll be moving away from everything I know and getting a job there and all. I also asked older people how hard it was to live with somebody they love and they said if it's the right person it's not hard at all. Anyway, I just really am not sure what to do. I had thought of listing out everything that would encompass me moving there/living with her and then talking about it all and then maybe we'd have a better idea of what to do. I don't get to talk to my girlfriend very often though so it could take quite some time for us to discuss everything. Anyway, please help me out here. Thanks.
Edit: she also said that either way, whether we live together, or break up because we can't, that she would feel like she was being forced to do something she doesn't want to do.
Edit: she also said that either way, whether we live together, or break up because we can't, that she would feel like she was being forced to do something she doesn't want to do.
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That sounds like a good idea, just moving closer will allow you to see a bit more of her an to see if its right
Yeah thats what i was going to suggest... I'm in a long distance relationship with my bloke and i he said he was going to move up here and us live together i would freak out as i'm not ready for that kind of commitment. Doesn't mean that i dont love him, just that i don't want that right now. So move closer, even the same town, but if you rent your own place, its not as commited, but you get to see her more, its a compromise
I have been in a long distance relationship for just over 3 years and I am moving closer to him on Saturday. I am just renting a room out in a house and then we can see how our relationship goes living nearer each other. If it works out fine then we are going to get a place together.