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Hi my best mate is under alot of pressure at the moment what with family problems,school stress and some other personal things that are occupying most of her thoughts at the moment but recently she has started to be wierd with me ignoring me ,not really talking to me or making the effort to talk to me i mean i feel like im just a convienience for her when she wants to talk .i mean i have tried to be here for her ive done the normal best mate stuff gave her a hug when she needed it ,been there when she needed to talk, tried to give advice when she needed it and yet im treated the worst out of any of her friends.Do i cobfront her about this or shall i just wait and see if shes back to normal once the pressure is uplifted a bit???plzzz tell me what you thimk i should do asi dont want to loose her as a friend ......constantly confused xxxxxx <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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if u really wanna stay friends with her then maybe u should try giving her a bit of space, u never really know wots going thru a persons head. maybe she is having problems or worries that you dont know about. in time if she is a real friend she will realise how important u are to her and make an effort with you but if she isnt then you'll just have to accept it and make new friends. good friends are hard to come by and not every friend u make will be a good one. u just gotta keep going till u find one
It's a wierd phenomenon. Not right, mind you. You should probably have a chat with her and let her know how you're feeling, but try not to be too harsh, even though it's not easy for you either. She may just be acting this way because the thought hasn't crossed her mind that you'll ever NOT be a part of her life. If this is true, you should let her know that you won't stand to be treated like crap, but that you do care about her and will support her.
Best of luck. Hope it works out.
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Nikki
Well I suppose I should point out that I knew it was bothering you, that I wasn't communicating as much as usual. Us two are really close, and I tell you everything. But this time it felt as if I was being a burden- I was constantly depressed, distracted... I just wanted to go on being in the group just in the background. I needed to get a hold of myself. I didn't need to talk it through with my mates as I was talking it through with someone else- my teacher- who acted as my counseller. I needed an adult's perspective. One of my main fears was a pretty adult problem, and I don't mean that my friends could not be good enough, I just mean that sometimes it felt better to let it out to someone then come back to normal (ish) life. Plus, with the adults point of view I don't have it like you do- I can't talk to my Mum. My parents are people that I could never go to about anything. I'm very cut off from them and always have been. Carter was different. He's someone I have respect for, my parents I respect very little. I trust him, I can talk to him without him judging me. And I value his advice.
Don't feel like I didn't want you there, and I didn't mean to be cold. I just needed space. I was like it with everyone not just you- it just hit you harder as you are more used to me being so open. You're my best friend and I love you so much.
Genie
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Mwah!!
Just let her know that you are there for her and keep the friendship strong.
If she still continues to be weird with you after a while, then confront her (with a soft approach) about it.
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Mwah- love you babe!!