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I can't be myself
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Lately I've found it increasingly difficult to be myself around others. For some reason, I just hold back and theres nothing for me to do to stop it. I just wanna be myself.. but the few people I can be myself around, I don't see anymore. As for meeting new people, I just clam up, act cold and it's really frustrating. What can I do?
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I'm not so bad now because I've sort of accepted that I am who I am whereas before I think I was so subconciously worried about what people thought about me that I wouldn't let anyone in and I'd clam up. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't still a bit worried deep down that people are gonna think I'm silly or a bad person or whatever, but I really don't think that's massively unhealthy, so long as I don't let it get out of control or that or let it affect me.
Have you been fucked about in the past that's making you a bit reluctant? I know you want to be yourself, but maybe it's something sub-concious that's making you wary?
Soon I'll be starting college and I will have to find new friends, I'm just dreading it. I'm not exactly going to make friends being quite, sitting there trying to hope noone will notice me. I wanna be loud like I am with my family and close friends.. but I just can't bring myself to show it.
With a bit of luck, you'll get more confident about speaking up and being yourself. It's actually a really low number of people who are actually all that loud and stuff when it comes to starting college, they just stick out a lot more.
If you like who you are, then it's something to build on.
just remember that everyone will be nervous as your all in the same boat