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How important is being attractive?
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I was wondering what peoples opinions are on being attractive? Not in terms of getting boy/girlfriends, more in life in general. Do you think it's a benefit with things like going for a job, or just making friends? I know that someone who is physically attractive will be percieved as more trustworthy by both sexes (from the font of all knowledge, a Channel 5 documentary). And I think subconsciously, we all tend to favour helping/working with/socialising with more physically attractive people. And for all you hotties, are there downsides that us normal people don't see?
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Depends what you class as attractive though. I tend to think very good looking people have to be let down somewhere (ie their personalities) and whilst this isn't always the case I'm less inclined to talk to them than a smiley not necessarily handsome person.
Despite the fact that you all go, oh shit, a minger, when "well they have a good personaltiy" is mentioned, a good personality can get you very far.
Maybe I'm just weird, but I tend to help people out less if they seem quite attractive, unless I'm in the mood for a bit of fun/flurting/time wasting.
Maybe they do have some sort of genetic advantage, and we should help to foster it for the better of mankind, but thats not how I see it. Maybe I'm a little too egocentric or pessimistic, but I try and make them earn my help and trust.
I guess it's important, but by no means the be-all and end-all.
I think looks help a lot, in getting you where you want to go superficially, but I would not say they help you find "love" because a lot of people will go with you for your looks and not for who you are (not all, but a lot).
It's a shame that nowadays, so few people are confident enough about themselves to show it. I personally (and I'm sure a lot of you will agree) would find a stranger who's having a laugh, enjoying themselves and very smiley / happy more interesting to get to know than another stranger sat right next to them with an attractive appearance, yet is just sitting there, tweaking his/her hair or clothes or whatever.
It's a vicious circle though; it seems that you have to be happy about your looks these days to display that confidence.
I'm not your typical beautiful woman - I wear glasses, I'm only 5'3" and my legs are way, way longer than my actual body which makes me look very out of proportion. But I try to dress well, I look after my hair and I generally try to make the most of my appearance. When I go out knowing I've made an effort, I don't worry about what I look like, I just concentrate on having fun.
Whether it's a job interview, making friends, or getting a boy/girlfriend; nothing is more attractive than self confidence.
Imo, anyway..
well said :thumb:
Thats the meanest thing I've ever heard. I hope you poked their eyes out
They wouldn't have needed that as they were obviously BLIND!
If that makes sense. I am a bit tired.
I totally agree. I have met girls which I thought were avarage looking... but after getting to know them, I have found myself more and more attracted to them.
:yes: I agree, that happens with me alot too. And same goes for the opposite. They can be fine looking but then you get to know them and they are a total knob they reall just get ugly looking too in my mind.
Oh shush
Curli's thought seem right to me! Within reason
:no:
I'm a big fat ugly bastard but I can't think of any situation where my looks might have held me back. Perhaps they have and I'm just not aware of it.
I have to rely on personality to get me through. I'm doomed.............
It also means that when you do get it, you will derive more pleasure from it.
It's all so relative, for instance an attractive person can be much more insecure because they could think that the only reason people like them is because of how they look.
It's not about being attractive, it's about confidence.
Ah but it isn't. People who say "I only care about personality" are bullshitting liars because all humans subconsciously take looks into consideration. As you get older you realise that it becomes less and less important bit it still plays a vital role.