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sorry if this has been asked before, but i was just wondering, what would you call a long term relationship?
someone who you know you want to be with for the long term, but still havent been seeing all that long, or someone you have been with for a while?
just wondering what other peoples opinions are. I think its someone who you know what to be with for the long run, regardless of how long you've been together ( so long as its not something stupid like two weeks or something )
someone who you know you want to be with for the long term, but still havent been seeing all that long, or someone you have been with for a while?
just wondering what other peoples opinions are. I think its someone who you know what to be with for the long run, regardless of how long you've been together ( so long as its not something stupid like two weeks or something )
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How odd.
I agree with that, sometimes it can fell like it has been longer that is has been really because of the connection and the love... the fact that you understand your partner so well make you fell like you have been with them for a long time... when some less mening relatonship that could have in time be older doesn't fell like a long term relationship, but more like a long term encounter...
i go out with people i like and want to get to know better. I think sometimes you can go out with someone and not know if you want it to be long term...but you enjoy being with that person.
ive been with my bf for almost two months, i feel like ive known him a lifetime. ive never felt this close to someone this quickly, i was thinking today, is it a long term relationship as ive not been with him for that long, but then it occured to me that maybe it is as i do want to be with him for as long as possible and maybe that made it a long term relationship
why is it? you can't go into every relationship thinking 'this is gonna last forever' as at a young age, it's often not forever.
i'd say over around 9 months.
Based on what my friends get up to, I would say anything over 6 months is long term. That might just be in my circle of friends, but none of them seem to have relationships lasting longer than 3 months for various reasons.
you don't. but if you go on your basis you'd only ever have 1 relationship.
Why not?
As long as your both clear on that point...
I did it with a girl once... we really liked each other, but she was going away in a few months and we knew a long disance relationship wasnt going to work...
So we went out knowing that it was going to end in a few months time... it was shit when it did.. but it was worth it! We got on really well and had alot of fun with the time we had!
i haven't gone into a relationship thinking 'this won't last' - but even if a relationship gives you a lovely year or 2 it's still worth it.
what's wrong with only 1 relationship? perhaps nothing in your opinion but i need to kiss a few frogs before i find my prince!
Well, yes absolutly, but my point is that entering a doomed relationship is more than just a little bit poitnless.
What would you have done if you had met THE guy first?
stay with them!
but the thought would be a little daunting. i'm only young i don't want to be with the same person for the next 60 odd years. my grandma and grandad might've been but i don't want to! anyway i've only had 1 boyfriend and i'd like to have some new experiences in different relationships.
I don't see why not, if it's someone you really gel with.....
I've been with my blokey since I was 18 (I'm 23 now) and I must say, I don't really find the idea of staying with him for the next however long particularly daunting, as long as we stay as stong together as we are right now.
But only if they're 'better', yeah? There's little point in seeing how green the grass on the other side is if you've got a great relationship right where you are.
Just my tuppenny's worth...
I wouldn't worry about the title of a long term relationship as it seems a relationship's duration is only as good as how well it's maintained. A better maintained but shorter relationship may seem more "long term" than a poorly maintained but longer relationship.
it was my opinion. personally at this age i wouldn't want to stay with someone for the rest of my life. but if i met someone and that's how it turned out then so be it.
i didn't split up with my ex boyfriend to see if the grass was greener, he split up with me!
i'm not saying i'd finish with someone just because i was scared of commitment, as i'm not. BUT right now the thought of being with the same person until i die would be a bit daunting and i think i'd get bored.
In the grand scheme of things I'd probably consider a five year relationship to be fairly long-term, but it still ain't a huge portion of your life if you split up after that period of time together... But if we're talking about when a relationship becomes a serious, proper, forward-thinking relationship then it can really be anytime. Wouldn't make it a "long term" relationship as it stood though, if you decided it was serious after three months. You can only really call it long term (by my reckoning) once you've spent that long period of time together. Ok, now I'm waffling 'cuz I can't articulate what I mean..
My longest relationship was three years, and while it seemed like a lifetime (life sentence?
Ask me when I'm 80 and I'll tell you how long my "long term" love lasted. :razz:
Sorry, I wasn't actually meaning you when I wrote that, I meant in general: if all's good why rock the boat. Sorry that it came out so insensitively...I didn't know about your personal situation and that the boyfriend you were talking about is an ex.