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Just throwing in my 2 cents here...
I believe you should wait for a relationship-as frustrating as it is-believe me, i know- because that way, after sex, you have the reassurance its ok, and the lovely feeling of cuddling up, being starving, ordering pizza and knowing its ok. If you go to a prostitute, its in out gimme money bye. No reassurance-that is meaningful anyway, no cuddling.
The other thing, after sex, youre gonna want it more. do you really wanna pay for a whore everytime you get horny?
Waiting until you actually have a girlfriend is probably a good idea, imo. And don't do what a few people have done to me in the past - they ask me for sex (like you'd normally ask your friends :rolleyes: ) then wonder why I tell them no. And they carry on & on asking me...
Well,it hasnt happened to me..and I dont even need to talk to girls for them to hate me!!!
I'm 22 never had a girlfriend, still a virgin and don't do very well with women (and that's putting it moderately.).
Recently, I found out there's a "Massage" parlour in the town where I live and I have seriously considered going. Infact, I was planning to go this morning but I've put it off.
The thing is, I'm really torn between two modes of thinking. On the one hand I think it might relieve some of the anxiety I have around women and might make me a bit more confident and the truth is I'm getting really frustrated and bitter with women especially because they seem to throw themselves at beer swilling neanderthals. Paying for sex might just be a bit of a release.
But on the other hand, what if I meet someone really special in the future? How would I explain my first time was with a prostitute? Not to mention the risk of disease plus the fact it probably won't be as satisfying as I expect escpecially if it lacks the kind of closeness I desperately want.
But then again I don't want to waste my youth waiting for something that may never happen. :impissed:
Sigh, I think I understand how you feel. Going to a prostitute is not the ideal situation but I suppose we have to make do with what we've got. I think I'll hold off the prostitute idea for a while though. I've got to try and work out whether it would be the best thing to do...
A prostitute isn't going to improve your social skills. How are you going to feel if in another 6 months, you still haven't got a girlfriend and your one and only sexual experience is with a prostitute - probably down enough to waste another paycheck. It's your social skills and general confidence that will get you a girlfriend, not your skills or confidence in the bedroom. Confidence in the bedroom, like anything else, might lead to more general confidence, but I don't think you can ever be confident that you were able to give her a good time if you were paying for it.
There may be a minority who have gone into it freely and enjoy it, but there's also a hell of a lot of heroin addicts, people who have had their kids taken into care, vulnerable young women, even women who are forced into it or have been trafficked.
Do you really want to fuel this sort of business?
No matter what you might think there are a lot of people less attractive/more dull/fatter/any other negative comment you can think of (im just guessing on what you might think of yourself but you do seem to have self-confidence issues) who are pulling people, having a laugh and generally being happy - because thats what its all about, being happy.
Most people are naturally drawn to others who have a smile on their face!
Lets say for example you're on a bus: You sit down and 2 women get on the stop after yours, they both walk past you one looks angry or depressed and gives everyone dirty looks, the 2nd is smiling at everyone and looking all cheerful... which would you rather talk to?
I know i've writen quite a lot and some of it may not make sence but i hope you can see the point i've been trying to get across! (and hope it helps!)
I'm seriously thinking about going over to Amsterdam and trying my luck there with one of their window girls, at least you can see what you getting beforehand. And somehow going out of the country to do it seems to lend some degree of fun to it as opposed to going to Soho, don't ask me why! Fancy coming Lifeless?
Why cant you meet a girl anyway? is there something holding you back? or any bad past experiences?
shes paing paid to act like she's enjoying it, and getting paid to pretend to like you and pretend your a sex god.
Not that i know anything about hookers....im just guessing thats the logic of it
This is your choice and you seem pretty set thats it's what you're going to do, but please consider what Icey has said, he's so right about the smiling thing. Don't sell yourself short. You are intelligent and kind (and those are just the things I have worked out over pm's) I'm sure you have plenty more good qualities you could be sharing with a girlfriend.
Good luck with whatever you decide but do not make any decisions until you are 100%!! x
Glad you're going to think about it. :thumb:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLup8wjbSIo
And when he sees that girls dont want him (no offence :thumb: ) he starts thinking that its always gonna be someone else that will get the girl and never him,hes meant to be alone.And being unwanted and knowing your unwanted hurts,it fucking hurts........ :crying: Its even worse when you see your mate going off and talking to girls and getting their numbers and you feel like a 5th wheel all the time. :yes:
Correct me if Im wrong about any of this though. :razz:
Fuck what other people think... If an future girls have an issue with it then they blatantly don't respect you as a person. You'd be better off with somebody who respects you.
To be fair, I cannot see how any man who visits a prostitute respects women as people anyway.