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One for the ladies....
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How would you feel about men who lie about themselves online?
Here's a scenario, you've been chatting to a guy online for a few weeks and he seems ok. In fact it gets to the point where you'd consider meeting him. From his description he sounds ok and you're enjoying his personality so you decide to give it a go.....
However when you meet him, he wasn't slim/tall/muscular etc as he'd said but in fact was the opposite - he'd blatantly lied about his appearance in some way.
What would you think? How would you feel?
Here's a scenario, you've been chatting to a guy online for a few weeks and he seems ok. In fact it gets to the point where you'd consider meeting him. From his description he sounds ok and you're enjoying his personality so you decide to give it a go.....
However when you meet him, he wasn't slim/tall/muscular etc as he'd said but in fact was the opposite - he'd blatantly lied about his appearance in some way.
What would you think? How would you feel?
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sorry for the man insert as well
However, I would've wanted to see pictures etc of him before meeting him offline.
Okay so that made much more sense in my head that what it did there, apologies. but yes, i would feel very if i found out he had lied about anything, especially if you've known him online for a while and consider him a friend
dishonesty is shocking.
I was chatting to this girl for a while, she seemed nice and we clicked pretty quickly. We were both single and the idea of a relationship was a real possibility. We'd spoken on webcam a few times and that was ok.
I could see from her cam that she wasn't exactly a slim girl but that didn't bother me - she told me she was about a 14 to 16 and as I like curvy women, this was fine.
However when I met her I could see she was clearly nowhere near a 16. At one point the label from her top was sticking out and I saw that she was a 24.
Now I'm not saying she was a bad person - on the contrary, she was very nice but I just am not attracted to someone of that size - and this is not something I have chosen be like, I have no control over what I do and do not find attractive.
I can see why she did it, had she told me her true size then it's likely I would not have been talking in terms of a relationship. But she lied - BIG style. It's not like I don't know the difference between size 16 and 24, this was a blatant lie.
I've mentioned this to a few of my female friends and they all seem to try and make me out to be the bastard in this - and this why I wanted womens' opinion of it happening in reverse? But why am I the 'bastard'? I'm not the dishonest one. For a relationship to work, I need trust and this girl already started things off with a lie.
p.s. luv the sig
But I would be offended.
I seem to give off the idea that I'm some monstrous real life version of The Blob, which, I guess, isn't true.
I don't do it on purpose, I'm just a bit shit
To be honest I'd find it very wierd if someone lied to that extent. I don't think you were/are being a bastard.
:yes:
if they are telling blatant lies, who's to say how many more subtle lies they are getting away with?
in your situation, i understand why she did it, but it doesn't make it ok.
:yes: Lying about something as looks is a big thing. Especially if they were going to meet you! How do you expect to fake that one. And just as you said, if they are going to lie about that what else have they lied about, and what else will they lie about. I'd not be able to trust them.
Like Jon, I could never meet someone from the internet on to one. Maybe an organised meet up, but never on my own.
Also, I wouldn't want to meet someone online for a relationship, maybe as a friend but nothing more.
Ditto.
I've met a handful of people from the 'net in one to one situations. They've always been as nice - if not, nicer - than I expected. Obviously I'm just a great judge of character... or have been very lucky..
*raises hand
Some people just spend too much time trying to pull people online, haha.
I wonder why they do that. If your trying to meet somebody online, then, at least in my mind, they plan on meeting them in real life. So whats the logic behind lying about something they will find out the truth about quite quickly. If that makes any sense... I can't pull together a sentence today.
You mean that if you were planning on meeting someone from the internet, you wouldn't lie about yourself?
Yea! And nto just about yourself but something that they will know your lying about the first instant they see you.
Totally agree.