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survey says: 10 partners or less!
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The latest sex survey carried out over the internet by some dating agency of some kind says that men are unlikely to marry any woman who has had sex with more then 10 partners. less then 10 they are likely to marry them, but more and they will see the woman as a "slut" and only be willing to have a short fling with them.
The survey also showed men see it as ok for themselves to have as many partners as possible before finally settling down to marriage.
What does anyone think about it?
I think it is fairly accurate, at least based on my friends relationships. The girls i know who have already had more then 10 partners find it hard to keep men for more then 6 months even when they fall in love with their boyfriends. And the guys i know tend not to want girls who have "been around abit" but i personally couldnt care less about my girls past if i like her.
The survey also showed men see it as ok for themselves to have as many partners as possible before finally settling down to marriage.
What does anyone think about it?
I think it is fairly accurate, at least based on my friends relationships. The girls i know who have already had more then 10 partners find it hard to keep men for more then 6 months even when they fall in love with their boyfriends. And the guys i know tend not to want girls who have "been around abit" but i personally couldnt care less about my girls past if i like her.
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Double standards.
I think its a load of rubbish to be honest. If guys can have one night stands but then fall in love and settle with a girl then why can't girls do that too?
It really annoys me sometimes the way guys can get away with stuff girls can't.
I think its more about the kind of guy certain "types" of girl attract than how many guys they've slept with, although I suppose a reputation for sleeping around is more likely to attract guys just after a quickie.
I'd probably just not ask.
Now if I was a guy that said that. People would automatically see that as normal. Wouldn't give that a second thought. Or question that what so ever.
But as I'm a girl some people (Men+Women) would automatically judge me and think of me as a slut or have low self esteem, blah, blah. When really, I just love sex and when I meet someone I get on great with and am attracted to, I do tend to sleep with them in the early stages as it's important to me to see how we connect sexually as well. Not sure if I said that right. But ya know what I mean, right?!
Saying that, some people would easily judge a guy for having very few partners as well. Thinking the worst of him. Wondering what's so wrong with him that he couldn't get more partners, when maybe he genuinely doesn't like one night stands and prefers to wait a while before jumping into bed with someone.
I couldn't give a monkeys if a girl had been with one or twenty. If I loved them, then I loved them - and I'd trust them until I had a reason not to. I hope
Different people behave in different ways, especially when growing up - which included my age-range. Go ask your parents how many partners they've had - you may be surprised!
Even though i have not had many partners, i am happy with one night stands if i get the chance or to have sex in the early stages of the relationship because sex is pretty important to me.
Saying all that, almost every girl i have been with except for one has had ex with way more men then i have women. In fact at least 2 girls i know have had near 20 sexual partners each and the others around 15ish. I dont mind from my point of view, but some girls once they learn they have slept with more men they i have women, dont want to get serious with me or dont like the idea of having a relationship anymore, which is rather annoying for me!
*by the way, this is not my opinion, just a thought.
As to the not marrying a women who has slept with over 10 men, i think thats crap. as i can easierly see me staying with this girl and marrying her. but maybe i'm strange and not normal.
On a more personal level, I am not bothered by the number of sexual partners that my partner has had. (I'm single, just to make it clear) I do not believe it is something that should make any difference whatsoever to a relationship.
Seriously though, it's not double standards. It's only double standards when you start judging men and women differently for the same behaviour (which I realise happens). That's different to finding someone attractive because they're shy/inexperienced or confident/know what they're doing. Personally, I can't say it's number one on my priority list, I'd just be happy that someone likes me to be honest.
I met my ex when he was 22 and he'd only slept with one girl, but he'd been with her for 5 years and I think that's a good thing, show's dedication and stuff. And I also think it's likely to make him much better in bed than a bloke who just sleeps with loads of different women.
You marry someone because you want to spend the rest of your life with them, not because they are fresh as daisies presented to you on a plate to pleasure you until you die.
I've recently had sex with a girl that's had over 80 sexual partners, and it was cool.
She knew what she was doing.
I went through a stage in 2003 where i lived in a large house in Essex with 2 other blokes and we had what we used to call "pimp parties" 4-5 times a week. During a period of about 6 months we must have slept with 15 girls each at least...
It's not about the number, it's all about having fun!! (until you get married
For fucks sake, it's the 21st Century!!
Don't it just!
Us guys are such a damn pain.
Marry me.
Well, exactly. Wishful thinking in its purest form.
Any man who would consider virginity as a deciding factor in whether or not he married me wouldn't be a man I'd be interested in losing my hypothetical virginity to anyway. If that makes sense to anyone but me..
Exactly.
If two people had a real connection, then it would be a fool who would say no-way just because she happened to have had sex with a few more people than he`d like.
I can see why it would matter if someone had deep religious feelings about it, but generally I think its probably more men applying double standards. As soon as they realise thats what theyre doing, they should give thmselves a large slap round the face with a bit of wet cod!
Agreed, and if they're not willing to give themselves a slap I'll volunteer to help them out in that department.
Definitely agree on the religious aspect, that does alter things because it's not just the baseless applying of double standards as you said. But then hopefully any man who considered virginity a necessity for marriage wouldn't be being hypocritical and having sexual relationships/shagging about themselves. Hmm.