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Hi all. Recently a girl i knew at school and college has started down one of my local's as a barmaid. Thing is, we didn't take alot of notice of each other back then, but seeing her again now i really like her. She has said hello to me a few times without me saying anything, and we've chatted several times - she seems quite happy to talk to me. I may just be imagining things, but i think i've noticed quite alot of eye contact aswell. My mates also said last night that when she was done serving me and i walked away, her eyes followed me all around the room. I know for a fact she's single aswell. So a few questions:
Does anyone think she might like me or is it just friendly chit chat?
I've thought about just asking her out, but a couple of friends have said i shouldn't do it while she's working and should wait until i see her socially, but i never do see her anywhere else, and if there is a chance i don't wanna let it slip or give her time to meet someone else. So how do you think i should play it? Girls, if it was you, how might you like me to do it?
Also, I asked out someone else who works there a while ago and i rather bodged the whole thing! If she found out about this or already knows, do you think it would bother her?
I really like this girl, and seeing as we have a bit of a shared history at least there's like something there and we have something in common, so any help is appreciated.....
Does anyone think she might like me or is it just friendly chit chat?
I've thought about just asking her out, but a couple of friends have said i shouldn't do it while she's working and should wait until i see her socially, but i never do see her anywhere else, and if there is a chance i don't wanna let it slip or give her time to meet someone else. So how do you think i should play it? Girls, if it was you, how might you like me to do it?
Also, I asked out someone else who works there a while ago and i rather bodged the whole thing! If she found out about this or already knows, do you think it would bother her?
I really like this girl, and seeing as we have a bit of a shared history at least there's like something there and we have something in common, so any help is appreciated.....
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Ask her even if she is on the job, frankly it will take you only a minute and it won't affect her work... If she fancy you it will not bother her that you ask her out and if she doesn't, well don't think she will get bothered either, she will just say no and you will know the answer for good...
Yeah i was thinking i should just go and do it. You're probably right....!
Yep, if she fancy you maybe she is waiting for it anyway and well at least you'll know for sure if you can either move on or start a relationship with her...
Yeah, suppose there's always gonna be that chance of rejection and you just gotta tell yourself that if you don't ask her, then you'll never have a chance anyway.....
Exactly!
What gives you reason to think she would have a problem with you asking the other girl out at the bar a while ago though?
His mates told him it was not a good idea...
Just do what you feel is best, your mates can give an opinion but it doesnt mean you have to listen to what they say. You could be missing out on somehting potentially good.
Incase i get a reputation for being some desperate idiot who just asks anyone out (To be clear, i'm not!), and cus i asked the other girl out before, then she might think i'm just asking her cus the other said no and she is second choice.....
Lol...!
I could be, which is why i'm just gonna do it. Tonight hopefully...!
Ooo let us know how it goes
Will do. Just hope she's working tonight lol
Be positive and expect success but prepare yourself that it might not go your way. If worst case scenario happens laugh it off. It won't though it'll be grand!
So just get to now her, drop a few flirty hints and take it from there.
I hope you're right, but yeah i'll try not to build my hopes up to much.....
I've been informed that she hasn't. Yeah i know that, that's why i'm unsure, but we'll see.....
Plenty more fish in the sea and all that! xx