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Was your first time painful?
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Ok, this is gonna be quite graphic, but then I guess everything is here so it's ok!
Girls (and guys' girls, if you don't mind sharing), was the first time you had sex really painful? I'm gonna to, soon probably, but I'm pretty tight down there (that's the graphicness) and I'm worried that it's gonna just be a whole load of pain. I mean, due process and all, I don't mind. I'm just wondering how much it will hurt, how long it takes to get used to and is there anything I can do to help it?
Girls (and guys' girls, if you don't mind sharing), was the first time you had sex really painful? I'm gonna to, soon probably, but I'm pretty tight down there (that's the graphicness) and I'm worried that it's gonna just be a whole load of pain. I mean, due process and all, I don't mind. I'm just wondering how much it will hurt, how long it takes to get used to and is there anything I can do to help it?
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If you're turned on, relaxed and can trust your partner to take things slowly and be aware of how things are going for you.. then you shouldn't have any major problems or excruciating pains.
As long as you're gonna lose your virginity to someone you really like just ask him to be gentle, I'm sure he wont want to hurt you. Don't panic about it and try to relax, make sure you have plenty of foreplay first too and you'll be just fine. x
foolish days back then!
Thats the best way, I wish I'd been that sensible but hey I was young and stupid. :grump:
Hi there,
As you can see from what others have said - you don't have to take it for red that the experience "will hurt" although it is likely that you will feel discomfort - this is because sex is best when both people are relaxed and since losing your virginity can be a nerve wracking experience it can be difficult to relax.
Generally though, actual pain usually depends on the relationship you have with the person you are going to have sex with. If you've explore each other's bodies before hand, if you have caring attitudes towards each other etc... then the chances are you are less likely to experience (intense) pain than with someone who hardly knows you.
TheSite has a factsheet on ways to avoid painful sex
Hope that helps - take care
Same, but i think that does help a lot though, i just found it more 'uncomfortable' by by the third time we got round to it, i was all fine and dandy.
Another girl I was with when it was her first time, she was very tense and nervous about it. It was difficult because she was worried and so she wasn't very relaxed down there. But once we got going she felt okay and soon relaxed and it was fine.
Just take it slow, tell him how you are feeling, and if there's anything in particular you want him to do. If you don't feel turned on enough, then tell him to do more work first! Communication is the key. Most of all, just relax and don't worry :thumb:
Just take it slow and it should be ok.