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Question for people who've done/doing a dissertation
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Does it really take over your life? To put this into context I won't be seeing much of my b/f til he graduates in July, so at the minute I'm only seeing him once a week if that, and talking very little on phone/via text. I know his dissertation is priority so should I just suck it up and not complain at all, or maybe hint that I'd like a bit more interaction?
I have a feeling I'm just bein selfish but any opinions very welcome!
I have a feeling I'm just bein selfish but any opinions very welcome!
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when you get into your second year or do your dissertation proposal i think you'll realise how time consuming they can be. for my dissertation i'll be carrying out my own research - that in itself will take up a lot of my time. a big deal is placed on dissertations so students are under a lot of pressure to do well. and don't forget you have other essays/exams to revise for on top of the dissertation.
eta: i think you need to remember this is only for a few months or whatever and plays a big part in what your boyfriend will get in his degree. he's worked hard for 3 years, no point in slacking off at the last hurdle. give him space to finish his work.
If you are in it for the long term you should try to focus on the fact that him doing well in his degree will help you both out in terms of him having better job prospects in the long run.
Just try to be supportive of him and not demanding.
at the end of it i was spending a minimum of 17 hours per day in the library. its very demanding
I waited and waited then blasted mine out in an adrenaline fueled four weeks, though its not always a good idea to do this.
If you time it well it shouldn't take over your life or stress you out really.
I'm up to 9143 words now though so only a few thousand more to go.
Wow! You took it pretty seriously. What degree did you take?
she's right, it probably will be the most important piece of work someone will do. doesn't mean she's being overly serious.
What are you reading now? Why quote me if you are just going to respond to some other imaginary post?
what?!
I think katralla is having a stressed out day. I'd ignore it if I were you.
Anyway, to answer the OP. No, you're not wrong for wanting a bit more interaction, and you're certainly not being selfish, but you probably won't get much more attention. I'd be really worried about your bf's health if he is doing nothing but work, that is really unhealthy, but work does have to come as a priority between now and the beginning of June. There'll be plenty of time for fun then.
i will thank you.
Bad form? I'm gonna give him bad fucking form when he "gives me a shout" later. :mad:
I doubt that, its not even close to the majority of most students final mark. I've certainly gone on to produce things I felt were considerably more important than my final paper.
I still managed to have a social life though - but i did go into university every weekend to get all my work done plus I had to spend 3 weeks in India doing research.
I dont' think it was the most amasing or most important thing i've written. I've certainly done stuff that has impacted on more peoples lives later in life.
Depends on the course, my dissertation was about 40% of my final mark so messing it up would have meant an overall crap grade even if all other marks were good.
Doing it is stressful but it shouldn't take over someone's life.
I did mine in about 2 months, still had a part time job and went out..but then my dissertation was on binge drinking so I had to carry out primary research!
That's fair enough, but to describe it as the most important piece of work you ever do? That kind of strikes me as the attitude of someone very fresh out of uni.