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Ok, i've tried to deny this, but its really difficult when it bothers me so much. I've been sexually active for about 2 years now ( im 16 ), I first had sex with a long term g/f and she, still to this day, claims its the best sex she's had ( she has had sex with other people lol! ) another girl I fucked also said its the best she's had, but the last one didn't really say anything on the matter! My current g/f I have not had sex with, and am very nervous about it, because I usually cum within 3-4 minutes, I hear all my mates bragging bout hour long sex sessions and things and it makes me very insecure, is this a problem that can be solved, or something im going to have to live with? Please help 
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Well weirdly enough it does slow you down a little...
Otherwise, try not to think too much about it, sometimes anticipation will create more stress, which will give you more pressure and make you come fast again...
It does work unless I feel like having his full attention
You can get all kinds of gel/condoms that will slow things down, I think they numb the area for you a little. Might be worth a try?
I prefer to please my girl personally, i like them to be enjoying themselves and try various positions and techniques and stuff, i find it makes the overall experience better as you feel much more in control. :cool:
In terms of while you're having sex, some positions are more stimulating for you than others, and so should be avoided or modified if you want to last longer. For instance, if you go in the missionary position with your legs between her legs, and use your hips to pump, then this will feel quite good and you'll get there much quicker. The hip grinding stimulates you more. However, if you slide her down to the edge of the bed so you can stand up on the floor while doing missionary, it won't be as extreme for you and you can last much longer.
Doggy style might also help, as I don't know about you but if I'm looking at a girl's face it turns me on a lot more than looking at her back! But that's down to personal preference -just experiment and find out what works best for you!
At least if it falls off the cumming quickly problem will seems minor
So you've not had sex with your current girlfriend - but with past girlfriends you have cum in 3 - 4 minutes? Either I am misunderstanding you or these past girlfriends have had very low expectations on what good sex is ...
Anyway, don't worry about it. The excitement of your first time with her may make you cum too soon. Seriously though, it's true what they say, crack one off earlier in the day and you should last a bit longer when you 'do it' that night ...
though im not 100% sure about distraction techniques, they tend to hide the issue rather than solve it. learning your body and learning her body and getting better control is about understanding your body and your signals. i think most guys with experience dont just have sex for ages, if they really wanted to cum they could probably do so quite quickly. i havent got loads of experience but if i want to cum quickly then its relatively easy to switch things so i do
it also comse in handy when shes pleasuring you, because you can take it easy and relax and enjoy it for ages, then when her neck starts getting a bit stiff let her know your ready and concentrate and because shes been stimulating you for ages it will be mindblowing.
but everyones different mind you
don't make yourself last longer, make the girl cum quicker
If you believe in this "sex happens in your head" thing, which seems to be true for a lot of girl: a proper foreplay really helps you out. :yes:
Youve got a tongue havent you?
And fingers...
Yep excellent suggestion it will be really rare that the second time around you come as quick as the first time... Just take 10~15mins, use it for foreplay to give your guy a bit of rest and go at it again...
Btw on your friend saying they have long session and all, you are not there to see it and it's more than likely than some of them are lying just to look cool in front of their mates...
True, but sometimes it's easy... A cock got a complex personality really...
Sometimes it just doesn't want to do what you want it to do... bastard...
:yes:
Off topic, I love your special title man, so true!!
this article I made sums it up though...