Girlfriend's birthday present

Former Member · March 2006

This is the first time I'll ever be with a girl on her birthday, so I need a bit of advice. We're 22 (well, she will be) and it's been 6 months, all going well. So I want to make it something pretty good and I was thinking of getting her booked for a massage at a beauty salon. Nothing sleazy!! Good idea? Bad idea? Advice? I've pretty much ruled out jewellery btw.

Former Member · March 2006

That is one of the better ideas.

I'll have to bear that in mind when I've got a girlfriend again...

Former Member · March 2006

i would be very impressed if a bloke thought of that. but i would also want something to keep so make sure the card is assez romantic

Former Member · April 2006

Good idea... just make sure she doesn't get the massage by a sexy man tho

Former Member · April 2006

Heh this did occur to me! OK, the feedback's been pretty good, ta for that. I was always gonna get her something tangible as well so I think I'll go for it. Thanks.

Former Member · April 2006

lipsy wrote:

i would be very impressed if a bloke thought of that. but i would also want something to keep so make sure the card is assez romantic

:yes: Never forget the card.

An ex of mine never bought me a valentines card, birthday card or christmas card. He didn't believe in cards and thought they were a waste of money.

Its always nice to have something nice to keep like that though, something thats really personal.

Former Member · April 2006

A massage sounds like a lovely idea. Like others have said, do not forget about the card.

Former Member · April 2006

i would love it if my man got me a massage for my birthday, so it sounds like a great birhtday pressy, go for it!!

Former Member · April 2006

Loved Up Blonde wrote:

i would love it if my man got me a massage for my birthday, so it sounds like a great birhtday pressy, go for it!!

Former Member · April 2006

I don't think I would like it actually...sorry don't wanna burst your bubble just my opinion. I'd rather have something that had meaning to the relationship like something that is a joke between you both, or even just a nice day out with a walk in the park. Nothing too flashy.

You know her best though so I'm sure she'll love it, and I wish I had had such a thoughtful boyfriend...actually any boyfriend would do right now! :banghead:

Former Member · April 2006

remotebleeper wrote:

and I wish I had had such a thoughtful boyfriend...actually any boyfriend would do right now! :banghead:

SNAP

Former Member · April 2006

*Stacey* wrote:

An ex of mine never bought me a valentines card, birthday card or christmas card. He didn't believe in cards and thought they were a waste of money. Its always nice to have something nice to keep like that though, something thats really personal.

That would explain the reaction of my ex (obviously not my ex at the time!) when I gave her a present, but not a card.

Former Member · April 2006

stargalaxy wrote:

That would explain the reaction of my ex (obviously not my ex at the time!) when I gave her a present, but not a card.

Tut-tut

Former Member · April 2006

remotebleeper wrote:

Tut-tut

I've changed, honest! :flirt:

Former Member · April 2006

stargalaxy wrote:

That would explain the reaction of my ex (obviously not my ex at the time!) when I gave her a present, but not a card.

It depends on the girl to be honest. For me though, a card with some thoughtful words written down inside is much more meaningful to me than for example, a bunch of roses. I mean, I'm not going to lie. I love presents (what girl doesn't?) but cards do mean alot of me. Its something I can look at when I'm down. Its something I can look at to know that someone cares about me. To be honest, I think if a guy can't even be bothered to write a card then he quite simply isn't worth it.

Former Member · April 2006

*Stacey* wrote:

It depends on the girl to be honest. For me though, a card with some thoughtful words written down inside is much more meaningful to me than for example, bunch of roses. I mean, I'm not going to lie. I love presents but cards do mean alot of me. Its something I can look at when I'm down. Its something I can look at to know that someone cares about me. To be honest, I think if a guy can't even be bothered to write a card then he quite simply isn't worth it.

That's me in your bad books, then.

What kind of words are "thoughtful"? Hopefully not "I love you so, so much with all my heart forever" or something equally as nauseating.

Former Member · April 2006

stargalaxy wrote:

What kind of words are "thoughtful"? Hopefully not "I love you so, so much with all my heart forever" or something equally as nauseating.

Nothing like that no. I don't think there are many guys that would write that kind of stuff out there and to be honest, I would never expect a guy to write something like that.

Asking for a card though just saying "Love from *name* xxx" isn't much to ask for though is it? Just something to let you know that they care.

I'm probably being silly but an ex of mine that did this really hurt my feelings. I would have always exchanged the presents he gave me for a birthday/valentines/christmas card. It always felt like he couldn't be arsed to write out a simple card.

Former Member · April 2006

*Stacey* wrote:

Asking for a card though just saying "Love from *name* xxx" isn't much to ask for though is it? Just something to let you know that they care.

That, I'm fine with writing.

...an ex that did this really hurt my feelings. I would have always exchanged the presents he gave me for a birthday/valentines/christmas card. It always felt like he couldn't be arsed to write out a simple card.

Three of my friends are having birthdays this month... I'd better start writing in those cards now!

Former Member · April 2006

When it comes to cards, make sure she likes them in the first place. I'm sure you'll know by now if she does or not. For me, cards are a pointless waste of lameness as they are for quite a few people.

But the salon idea sounds wonderful.

Former Member · April 2006

stargalaxy wrote:

That, I'm fine with writing. Three of my friends are having birthdays this month... I'd better start writing in those cards now!

It doesn't bother me if my friends don't buy me cards! Just boyfriends to be honest.

Like myname has just said, alot of people don't like receiving cards. I don't know why I even bothered writing my ex birthday/valentines/christmas cards when he didn't even believe in them. He was willing to receive them but wasn't willing to make the effort to write some himself :yeees:

Anyways, to the original poster, the salon idea sounds like a great idea. I'm sure she will love it :thumb:

Former Member · April 2006

*Stacey* wrote:

Like myname has just said, alot of people don't like receiving cards. I don't know why I even bothered writing my ex birthday/valentines/christmas cards when he didn't even believe in them. He was willing to receive them but wasn't willing to make the effort to write some himself

The only thing I don't like about cards is, what the hell do you do with them afterwards? Until recently, I had Christmas cards that I'd received back in 2001 in my bedroom. The only ones I've now got are Christmas and birthday cards from last year, plus two Valentine's cards from this year. I've no idea who sent one of them, but that's a story for another day.

Former Member · April 2006

stargalaxy wrote:

The only thing I don't like about cards is, what the hell do you do with them afterwards? Until recently, I had Christmas cards that I'd received back in 2001 in my bedroom. The only ones I've now got are Christmas and birthday cards from last year, plus two Valentine's cards from this year. I've no idea who sent one of them, but that's a story for another day.

I keep more meaningful ones. I.e- 18th birthday or ones from my boyfriend or parents.

Any random xmas cards I dont really keep unless theres a reason to.

Anyway- Im sure she'll LOVE the birthday present

Its a really nice idea and unique. Most girls like unusual and thoughtful things.

Bunnie · April 2006

I love cards, and i have hundreds from over the years, and although there away in a drawer, now and again, i like to take them out and have a read.

love the idea of a massage, sounds so relaxing, id quite like one now actually! hehe

Former Member · April 2006

Right now I'm worried about this! Got it sorted the other day but I told my mate earlier and he thought it was a bad idea - not boyfriend enough, too much of a mate's present. Dang. I know she likes getting a massage, but maybe this is too impersonal.

Former Member · April 2006

But look at how many girls here said that was a great gift, who are you going to believe, one guy friend, or a group of girls. Most gifts are "impersonal" if you really think about it. I still stand by my opinion that its an excelent gift!

Former Member · April 2006

It's a good gift

go with your instinct, you obviously thought it was a good idea when you thought of it!

She'll love it, and if she doesn't, it's just kinda ungrateful :yes:

Former Member · April 2006

Ta peeps, I'm going with it.

Former Member · April 2006

Let us know how she reacts

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