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Settling down
BillieTheBot
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Putting down roots, whatever you want to call it.
It seems that a lot of people stay in the area in which they grew up, or where they went to University... at least for a considerable chunk of their life. Makes sense, of course, since you know the place...more than likely have a job etc.
I was wondering if anyone has any plans to that effect, or if you've already effectively "settled down" then was it where you planned to? Anyone actively planning to stay in their hometown for the forseeable future?
By this I mean realistically, none of this "I want an apartment in NY, beach house in Miami, mews house in London etc" - be realistic, not aspirational.
I'm having a bit of a think about this at the moment; I want to move but I can't quite decide which direction to go..
It seems that a lot of people stay in the area in which they grew up, or where they went to University... at least for a considerable chunk of their life. Makes sense, of course, since you know the place...more than likely have a job etc.
I was wondering if anyone has any plans to that effect, or if you've already effectively "settled down" then was it where you planned to? Anyone actively planning to stay in their hometown for the forseeable future?
By this I mean realistically, none of this "I want an apartment in NY, beach house in Miami, mews house in London etc" - be realistic, not aspirational.
I'm having a bit of a think about this at the moment; I want to move but I can't quite decide which direction to go..
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i'd advise south. You wont want to end up in Scotland!
I wouldn't mind. :razz:
:grump:
I'd be quite happy to live in Edinburgh for the rest of my life. I love this city. It's the perfect size, it's got beautiful architecture and it just glows during the summer.
I think I'm a bit young to be going on like this; as isn't it when you get old[er] that you're supposed to want to get back to where you started from...but I'm seriously considering it. A displaced person, I think.
I think that most people settle where they went to university or lived before they went. However there are also a significant number who will move to find work. I grew up in london and for the sector I work in it makes perfect sense to remain here. However loads of people will move to london for work and a few of my friends have moved to other parts of the country because of thier jobs.
I also have two other friends who have moved away because they wanted a different lifestyle - one to live on a farm in the middle of nowhere and the other to the south of france.
I think it depends on a whole variety of things - for example I couldnt' wait to escape from the place where I grew up for a variety of reasons - however I didn't exactly escape very far just to another bit of london about 30 mins in the car away from where I live, because i wanted a shorter commute to work, because i wanted to live in an area that was more me and because it was also easy for my boyfriend to get to work from.
But where you choose to live could be very different - it depends on whats most important to you.
Do you want to live somewhere where you know everyone.
Do you want to be close to your family.
Is your carrer more important - ie would you move for the perfect job or would you move somewhere you really liked and the looked for a job..
What kind of lifestyle do you want to have - do you love the countyside or the city - living in london especially is loads of fun and there are millions of things to do but its stupidly expensive..
Where in reality can you live - are you able to afford to move out directly after university or will you have to move home to live with your parents..
Do you want to live in the UK or move abroad.
I hope that helps a bit
I've ended up settling here for a number of reasons. This is a nice halfway point between our two families- mine are in Bradford, hers are in the Lake District. I went to uni in Durham, she went to uni in Newcastle, and we've both got jobs here.
We never made a conscious decision to stay here though. We've just ended up here, and now we've bought a house in a very nice part of town, we're happy to stay here for now. I'm resigned to the fact my kids will be barcodes not Bantams (poor things).
I think you'd do a lot worse than staying here. I wouldn't leave the north, I'd miss the big hills and the big skies too much.
I'd like to either move to a little village i lived in when i was younger, or move back to Kent. but for the moment its a case of have job/friends and family here. so i'll be staying put.
But I am planning on doing a bit of exchange studenting, and I would like to try working abroad or doing my masters somewhere else. But I have found that I keep finding all this weird stuff that's 'better' here in Iceland than abroad. The water, the size, the culture, etcetc. It's a matter of stopping to think and just do. The way I see it, I can always come crawling back if I go someplace else and hate it.
I'd quite happily settle around here for the near future, although the only tie I have is my job. I think my career is about all I'd move for, now.
Settling is a bit hard when it'd take a miracle to buy a house/flat, so I'm still feeling stuck in a limbo at the moment.
In the long term, I think I want to get out of this country, and as I progress careerwise It'll probably be a lot easier to do.
id just miss the place if i ever left
Who knows, maybe I'll change my mind in so many years time
If I was to move out of Belfast, it be out of Northern Ireland as I couldn't imagine living anywhere else in N.Ireland to be honest. I'm spoilt living here as everything is all very convienent. Close to City Centre, Airport, Train, Bus stop. I'm a city girl. As much as I love visiting out in the countryside, I couldn't actually live there.
It's NI that I'm seriously considering, actually. Apart from the immediate ones, all my family is there and it's weirdly the place I've always felt happiest. I think I'd maybe start out in Belfast, and then try and move out to the countryside...I've even got an exact location in mind, which I'm trying to put out of my head. Hmm.
Wyetry - hello.
Andy, I think I want to get out of this country too...that's why Germany is so attractive. But it wouldn't exactly be plain sailing and I'll admit that that puts me off. /laziness
Oh YaY - That would be a fab if you did move here
Where exactly you wanting to move then?
bloody cold in the winter though! :grump:
The other Newcastle :thumb:
despise the place yet love it at the same time .. its so different than anywhere else!
but you never know! somewhere with bigger and better jobs is always desireable!
get yourself a nice wee caravan :razz:
I am now living in Sheffield and the main reason for this is simple. When I first met my husband he had already bought a house there. When I finished uni, it made much more sense for me to move here than for him to sell the house and move to Edinburgh.
I have settled down. I am quite happy being 'er indoors. We have our family of cats and we have each other. The only downside is that I am so far away from my parents, but realistically, no matter what happened, I would be far away from them.
although saying this, my dad is currently in the process of buying a house in the US (san diego/san fransisco area) so if that all goes through i plan on living over there for a while
So you can be close to the Mournes?
It's a nice wee town.
Indeed, among other reasons.