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BillieTheBot
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Dunno how to get you some. Don't be so hard on yourself mate, I didn't make you my best man for nowt.
I forgot I was still in Silsden
You're very kind.
Out and about?
I have no hope of that.
I'm sorry, but what I meant was get yourself out there (much harder to do than say I know) Number one step is to be confident. If you are confident in yourself, you will attract the attention of others. How about going to an evening class? I went along to an art class to broaden my social life and it worked. I do know it is hard, I have been there but put a little effort in and it will pay off.
I go to the pub and whatnot, and out with the work people when owt's happening
I've not a right lot to be confident about, though.
Don't expect to meet your new best friend in a week.
Everyone goes
I don't need a new best friend just to know more people, and somehow be thought of as normal or whatever by more people.
If others can, I should be able to, but it doesn't really work.
Exactly! Build on the friendships you have.
popularity is ok, but lots of people get it wrong. do they like you cause you're popular, or do they like you because you're you? in my experience, it's often the first.
anyway, forget popularity. what you need is self-confidence. and i'd like to dispense more advice about that, but i seem to be still working on it myself.
1. That's very true.
2. All the best people are.
Threads like this are the reason I shouldn't post when pissed and miserable
people just see you as the barman in their lives
not as andy
which i would and sometimes do have a problem with
Also picking up on the last two posts smiling at people makes you a far more likeable person and it makes you seem a lot more approachable. Confidence is also important but you tend to find that the more you talk to people even if it's just a hello you'll grow in confidence and it then kinda snowballs and goes from there, never talking to people will mean your confidence never increases. Thats my perception of it, but I've always found making friends easy and I've always been myself and tend to smile a hell of a lot.
Hope this helps :thumb: