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:banghead:
Of course they should.
Therefore you should do exactly as I say.
Does a man want to go out with a woman who can't think for herself? Well, I don't know about other men, but I wouldn't. I can't think of anything more boring. Ask any of Peter Stringfellow's girlfriends...
It's all about balances of power.
The way most women get around it is by persuading men to do what they want, and making sure the men think it was their idea all along:p
Nah, most of them are canny enough to know exactly what they're doing.
Well, not exactly, but that's kind of the gist of it.
Canny bit of money to be made from it, if you play your cards right.
I seen an episode of that Wife Swap program once and there was this woman who believed the role of the woman was to be totally subservient to the role of the husband...she was a fucking weirdo.
Was that the English woman that dressed up in Japanese clothes and as soon as her husband came in she took off his shoes for him?
If so then I think the husband took advantage of her a lot but taking care of her husband made her happy..
IO mean say she wnats you to do aher a favour, or wants to watch something on tv or something like that and you say no, were doing it my way and such.
I mean isnt that being a bit selfish and such? Wouldn't that come across as bad? But yet it would be putting her in her place.
I mean I would imagine at the start the guy i saccompidating because he is trying o impress her, but then if sh ethinks u give in to her will or something liek that, they guy might be ditched for being too nice and so on.
striking a balance is tough.
Some people are dominant, and two hot-heads will argue a lot. Two passive people will never get owt done.
Sometimes I get my way, sometimes she gets hers. That's what a relationship is all about. And if there's something she wants to see and I don't, she'll just go with her sister.
I agree with the jist of that.
Strong-willed men and cunning women are naturally complimentary.
So why do some women say thats what they want, those exact terms?
well not on here but I have heard it used before.
Being 'dominant' doesn't equate to what you're thinking.
No thats not the point sometimes they like it when a man takes charge, putting in their place is the wrong was to describe it.
Equally they hate it when a man tries to decide everything and considers a women not her own person.
There is a kind of balence to be struck
I said I had heard the phrase by women that they like to be put in their place, by a man. Exact phrasing aswell.
girl with sharp teeth - I didn't noticed your location before, the wye aye caught my attention, your a geordie girl??
I don't get it myself. I always assumed people in relationships are equals or should be anyway.
Putting someone "in their place" = dominance.
Women throw up all kinds of problems in relationships, creating arguments over nothing as a test. When they've become sickened with apologetic, sychophantic wimps who only know how to act submissively...well, you work out the rest.
I believe the phrase is used in conjuction with
someone "stepping out of line"
and then being put back in their place, i.e. back to where things should be (equal)
Anyway a lot of people making discussion about the actual wording then the gist of the whole topic - I've heard the phrase quite a few times and only from women ....but women who are in their 40's, 50's, 60's, etc .. might not be something you young folk say these days. :chin: