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Finding your other half attractive??
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has anybody on here ever experienced themselves becomming less attracted to their other half during the course of their relationship? How have you approach the situation if they altered, either physically or personally, and it turned out that you didnt fancy them as much??
Help needed please, as my head is so confused at the mo, i really need other peoples experiences and advice.
Thanx
Help needed please, as my head is so confused at the mo, i really need other peoples experiences and advice.
Thanx
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We do need to chat, but i feel so bad. We talked the other night, but i dont think he took any of it in. How do you say to someone "i think im starting to fancy you less" without feeling like a bitch?
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Was kinda hoping we could work through it together, and with my encouragement he'd feel better+then id feel better
Selfish i know
In the end I ended it, and it was a huge relief when I did, because it got to the point where I'd never invite him in when he dropped me home and didn't even like kissing him...
Don't think that'll help, but at least you know you ain't the only one!
generally Ive found someone more attractive the more ive loved them
Sorry I'm not much help:)
we've been spending less time together recently bcos im very busy ATM with uni, and im going abroad for 3 weeks soon, so that should help me decide!
he's just so amazing in most respects, i cant help but think that id be 'throwing away' (so to speak) an amazing boyfriend if i ended things with him. Noones perfect!
I fancy my boyfriend so much! It sounds sad but I still get the same flutters when I see him as I did this time three years ago. Sometimes I just stare and stare at him, contemplation how fit he is.
Oh good - I'm not the only one who does that! :flirt:
relationships go through bad spells, and sometimes you do question yourself and your choices. It's only natural.
I'm not saying this is your case but it does sound familiar (also some friends have been through similar stuff), and when you start justifying your lack of fancy with things like "he's so amazing in other respects", "nobody's perfect", and just general fear to losing such great quality guy (which no doubt he is) - in my book its time to end it. I know exactly what you mean with the "throwing away" bit, but you don't have a relationship only with your head, you have it with your whole body. You just have to be true to yourself and accept what you feel and don't feel.
Well, I'm sure your time abroad will help you clear your head
Indeed.
Even if they started getting love handles, grey hair (hopefully it's a way off, but..) I imagine that being in love with them would make those things irrelevant. Maybe that's a bit idealistic, but it's what I like to think I'll find in my future relationships.
I found my ex irresistible throughout our three year relationship, so I can't say if it would've affected things if I'd stopped feeling that way. Unfortunately his gorgeousness didn't stop him turning out to be a complete dickhead, so I have to blather about how much more important personality, character, communication, friendship...(all those things) are than physical attraction. It's a part of the relationship, but by no means everything.
Hope you sort out how you're feeling, hon.