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Guess its over this time...
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Well, both me and my (supposed) gf went out (separately) down town tonight with our respective friends.
I got home about 2 and she was probably still out so i phoned her, no answer.
rang her again at about quarter past 2 and she answered - was in the chippy and getting a taxi home soon, i asked if she minded if i rang her later on and she said no its fine.
rang her just now (2.40) and it rang for a while then it was answered and all i heard was someone say 'she dont want to talk to you' but not right into the phone it was like they were stood nearby, then they hung up.
Now her phone is off.
i love her to bits but im fed up of being treated like shit. just wish i knew how to make her realise whats shes doing and tbh, get my own back!
advice?
I got home about 2 and she was probably still out so i phoned her, no answer.
rang her again at about quarter past 2 and she answered - was in the chippy and getting a taxi home soon, i asked if she minded if i rang her later on and she said no its fine.
rang her just now (2.40) and it rang for a while then it was answered and all i heard was someone say 'she dont want to talk to you' but not right into the phone it was like they were stood nearby, then they hung up.
Now her phone is off.
i love her to bits but im fed up of being treated like shit. just wish i knew how to make her realise whats shes doing and tbh, get my own back!
advice?
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I'm still pissed off and im not going to let this drop. i just dont know whether to finish with her or not because tbh i just want to get over her 'cause i know its going to end sooner or later anyway!
She rang me this morning however and said sorry for last night, it was hard to explain last night exactly how things were 'cause i was a bit drunk and everyone over reacts when theyve had a few.
definately.
probably hard to hear icey but it's the truth. relationships are meant to make you happy - you're not meant to spend half the time arguing and worrying whether you're going to split up. there are better relationships for you out there.
Walk away with your head held high. You're better than this and you're better than her.
If she isn't mature enough to tell you straight then boot her into touch. She is a waste of time. Go and find someone who won't take the mickey right out of you like this.
I'm sorry to say this, but you need to end it. The relationship is dead. Walk away with dignity, stop trying to grovel in the dirt for something that won't come back.
As you have probably guessed, im not going to break up with her just because a few people ive never met tell me to. I do still love her and i have been known to over-react to things in the past (such as by making this thread in the first place). I'm going to stay with her and just play things by ear really, if i end up getting my heart broken then its my fault and my problem.
Yes i am being dismissive to all of your comments but it is a decision i have to make myself.
Oh and the situation about always phoning her, actually i phoned her once, at the end of the night and she said she couldnt really talk then, so i asked her if she wanted to talk later to which she replied yes, it was when i phoned back that the phone was picked up and put down again
(and fyi, we're not on a break - which you would know had you bothered to read the whole of the other thread i made)
well bloody stop making posts and whinging about her then.
and sorry if i don't make a tip top effort to keep up with your soap opera of a relationship.
but anyway, hope you work it out
On the whole i love this relationship though and the times ive made threads about it have been mostly in anger and as a way of venting a bit.
As for the soap opera comment, a comment made by somebody on here actually, i think it was either kaffrin or rainbow brite, changed my perspective on relationships quite a lot. They said something along the lines of 'a relationship would be boring without any drama' and i think they were right!
Haha.
Kermit et al are dead on, you need to cut your losses. It's no relationship if you can't even enjoy your time spent apart without feeling paranoid and questioning your future together.
I really think it sounds as though you'd be better off apart, though obviously we don't know the situation and your feelings as well as you do yourself. Chin up, mate.
Then it ended and I realised that I was much happier without (took a while though).
Best of luck on your decision mate.
But yeah, course you're not going to listen to us about it. And yeah, of course we only know what you tell us.
Arguments are a natural part of being in a relationship, if you feel strongly about someone then sometimes that will come out in an argument. But if you are continually arguing then the relationship is not right. If you never argue I think that's unhealthy, but it's definitely unhealthy if you argue constantly.
Without trust you have nothing. If you argue constantly, or have blazing rows on a regular basis, then your relationship is in dire straits. When people say arguing is natural, they don't mean its natural to be at each other's throats half the time. If you think you have something worth working on then work on it. There ain't much more advice to give really.
I'm not going to say that I think you have nowt to worry about, because if you argue half as much as you say you do then you're in trouble mate.
erm...not sure what else to say...
Fair enough, you do what's best for you.
But you do, in my opinion, need to sort out the constant arguing. We all argue sometimes, but not half the time we see each other.