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Im not a christian
Why would that make me freakish? Just because i dont want to take up the offer of sex from someone i barely know? In hindsight it was for the best anyway, she fucked me over anyway. I would have been more messed up if i'd done the deed with her.
Finally someone that understands!
So I'm a freak for not shagging someone who turned out to be a complete whore? I'd rather lose it to my girlfriend* than to a random thanks.
*Why yes, yes I do have a girlfriend
Yes but the desire is there to want sex, which ya know makes you less freakish
You can have great sex where it means nothing whith somebody you barely know, but you can also great sex with somebody you love and it'll mean something completey different.
Whatever ever it is, those than say that sex isn't a very important part of a relationship are fooling themselves.
If it meant nothing of course I would have lost my virginity three or four years ago. But sex means something to me, and therefore I want to wait until I feel I am with someone I would not regret losing my virginity to.
Why do you think sex has to mean something though?
I doubt it was the best sex you had though. Was it simply special because it was your first time?
I posted before, but the simple reply to the OP's question is that no, it doesn't make you a "dork". It might mean you're not the "norm", but what the fuck does that mean anyway...you only get one life, live it however the hell you want and don't make apologies for the things (and people?) you do, things you say or what you think.
You'd think from this thread that there was a definitive right and wrong answer to this kind of thing, and absolutely no grey area whatsoever.
See i never understand why people plan how they're going to lose their virginity?
I lost mine on a er wall somewhere in the freezing cold with some kiddy i didn't even like, but i can't say it's mentally scared me, or that i wish it had been with someone i loved. Just don't get it!
Where does it say that?
The point is it doesn't have to be anything more than just a fucking good time.
Has everyone forgotten that sex is meant for procreation? (originally) I may be unusual but I want to have sex with a man whose babies I wouldn't mind having.
So we should only have sex with people we want to have kids with?
Complete jank.
So you saying that if your not into shagging someone you care about, then you must be one of those people that shags whoever?
These unwritten laws and rules have no reason. It's pretty well established that sex is a basic human want, and it's bloody fun - if we're safe why shoudln't we do it for the simple reason it feels good?
I don't think anyone doesn't want sex period, they just choose to live without it for other reasons.
Voice of reason. This a completely pointless "debate" (thinly-veiled slanging match, I'd say) because there is no right or wrong attitude to sex before marriage, sex with different partners, sex outside of the fairytale relationship. There are just different attitudes.
I'd say it was more of a discussion than a thinly veiled slanging match :rolleyes: