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Recently I've been missing quite a few lectures, I know I'm making less effort and my exams results were pretty dire. I sometimes get stuck in a rut and just lose all motivation, some of it is boredom but mostly it's problems outside uni, e.g. with my gf.
Has anyone got any suggestions about how to give myself a kick up the arse? Do you think I need to try and sort out my problems and then everything else will fall into place, or should I just try and get on with uni and hope stuff gets sorted out at some point? Thanks.
Has anyone got any suggestions about how to give myself a kick up the arse? Do you think I need to try and sort out my problems and then everything else will fall into place, or should I just try and get on with uni and hope stuff gets sorted out at some point? Thanks.
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first off, what year are you in?
i always see something like this as a blip or a phase and after a week or 3 it will right itself. i think now you know that you're in the rut and you recognise that its causing you problems then you should and will be able to make an effort and start afresh.
I always find myself whinging about the odd hour I have to spend listening to a lecturer and taking notes, but I find if I catch myself doing that I can always remotivate myself by reminding myself that I'm here to learn about something I'm interested in, and that I want to be someone who does everything as well as possible. I know where I want to go with my life and uni is a key part of that, why mess about with it?
Other problems are exactly that - other problems. Try throwing yourself into your studies and distract yourself from all the other crap going on. Deal with what you have to do at this precise moment, and then deal with the next thing when it arises.
It's easier said than done, I know, but is there anyone else in your flat/house or on your course who could maybe give you that extra push to go? Like you could meet up with one of your coursemates outside the library or at the canteen half an hour before lectures and then head there together...so then you'd be letting someone down if you just decide to fuck it off.
I agree completely with this, don't let your problems snowball and take your Uni life down with them. If you're feeling down or stressed then the last thing you'll want to do is head out to what may well be a boring lecture, but you just need to DO IT. I personally don't know of any special motivational tricks (someone else may, who knows?) that can make you go to your lectures. Rely on the sheer force of your own will, and if you really feel like you can't turn up just at the minute then speak to your lecturer or personal tutor if you have one. It's not a big problem at the moment, but you should definitely try and nip it in the bud asap.
To answer the question, I'm in my second year. I'm off to america to work for a year in July, and at the moment that's kind of my goal, to go there, have a good time etc and then come back be completely prepared for my 3rd year.
I know I can't just neglect anything this year, that would just be stupid of me. I do look at myself sometimes and think "I don't wanna waste this opportunity". I guess I sometimes find it quite easy to concentrate on one particular problem, and make it get bigger and bigger...I really want to try and do as you say now, and really knuckle down. I've got career plans!
On another note, I'm not looking forward to explaining my exam results to my personal tutor when I see him in the next week or so...any ideas?
i'm in my 2nd year too but doing alright at the moment.
you kinda need to tell yourself it actually counts now; your marks go towards your FINAL degree. something you'll probably only do once so need to do a good job of. it's only 3-4 years of your life.
you might think you'll be better motivated after your year in america but you'll need to pass your 2nd year before you get there.
Anyway... if you enjoy your course for the most part then i'm sure you'll be ok... Did you feel like this in the first year at all?
:yes: It's important to be on good terms with your tutor for your third year because you will probably want to be able to go to them for support as the important deadlines in your final year start to arise. The fact that he wil be concerned about your progress suggests that you currently have quite a good relationship with him??
You sound pretty stressed right now so it's probably a good idea to try and find ways to cope with that - this article may be useful. Take care of yourself while trying not to keep putting work off - if you can do a small amount consistently up until you go to the States for the summer then you will hopefully be able to enjoy the time a lot more than if you are worrying about what you might have to face when you come home.
Still a few months to go - good luck
n yeah,if things with your gf ain't that great it'll add to the load...but whether you're going to take action in that aspect first is totally up to u. things could work out both ways...you get your uni act together,n then it might help you to clear things up with your gf...or....you get things with your gf together and it might help you to clear your uni things out!..it's decision time.. good luck! x
not exactly the best example to set, is it turlough.
And I also broke up with my gf this evening, so we'll see how that affects everything. Hopefully once I get used to it, there will be a lot less stress. I hope.
I didn't mean it to sound like that. It just felt easier to talk about it as if I'm okay about it all.
stick in there dude... I'm in my final semester of my final year and also finding it veeeery hard to motivate myself